"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Help! Mad confused..

enyczazn

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There's this hot chick I picked up on the subway like 2 weeks ago. I went up and got her number because she kept giving me IOI's. I bought her to my apartment first so she can get used to my place. Convinced her to leave her bag there so she comes back over after we go out. Pregamed for a bit there and went out to an all you can drink, bowl, play ping pong bar. Showed her a good time and kept moving her to different locations so that she feels comfortable with me(time distortion). Made out with her and bought her home. Before we did anything, she gave me some LMRT by questioning me couple times whether I have a girlfriend or not. Denied it because i didn't and we proceeded to ****. SHe hit me up everyday after that just to see how I was doing. Couple days later took her out to dave and busters and then a movie. Showed her a good time. Received a text saying thanks for a good time afterwords. Next morning texted back "Action speaks louder than words, i accept gifts, food, and mayb a massage". So she responded back lol wanna eat? Told her I was going to eat with my friends and she tagged along. Had a good time, she paid for the meal and spontaneously we decided to go to Atlantic City. She canceled work to come with us. Stayed for two nights at AC and was just relaxing. Felt like it was moving mad fast. I could tell that she was into me, holding my hands every chance she gets, kissing me 24/7 and ect. Then after a wild weekend told her we will talk soon. She hits me up again couple days later saying if i was busy and she wanted to hang out. I was eager and said yea come over and cracked couple jokes. But then as she was supposedly coming over she texted me saying "forget it i heard you have a girlfriend." i texted her back "are you serious..i thought we had this talk before.. I told you back then and ill keep telling you now..I do not have a girlfriend! I do not know where you are getting this information from.. and if you can not find it in you to just trust me and because trust is the most important part of a relationship.. then i guess we cant be friends". she replied back "mayb not. good night" so i responded " it was good while it lasted" and the last thing she wrote was " have too..you know.."
I am just confused because I thought I had this chick in the bag.. but it doesnt make sense?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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backbreaker

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she did you a favor. just forget her. actually i would go so far as to say if she tried to contact you again don't let her. she has played her hand and show you she has ****ty character

when a woman starts making up ****, that actually isn't true, run run run run run. run run. run. she is looking for **** wrong.

you played that **** perfectly by the way
 

Tiguere

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MOVE ON.

living in NYC you should be used to h03s like this. you pump it now move on. what did you want? a relationship with this girl? GET SERIOUS!!

i think its good she pulled this stunt on you. its a blessing in disguise. i can smeel the stench of oneitis creeping out of you.
 
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