HELP. Keeping Challenge but Getting ENGAGED????

[ShawnStJames]

I've found that the whole CHALLENGE/Mystery/Interest Level thing to be ESSENTIAL in dating. EVERY time ive abandoned the principles ive been burned.

Here goes...I want to marry this girl, but how exactly do I KEEP THE CHALLENGE WHEN SHE KNOWS IM COMMITTING MYSELF TOTALLY TO HER?

 

[21-Q'z]

thats suuuuch a good question man. Im totally feelin u on this one. All the times I wasnt enough of a challenge in datin i got burned but i think damn..if i wanna hook up with a girl (which i wann a do right now)I dont want this game playin situation in a relationship with her anymore...
SO my question: Do girls stop (most of) that game playin stuff when they finally committed to u and ur no longer "datin" them but the two of u are "together" ?

 

[NewMike]

Good question. I'm engaged and would like the answer to this as well!

 

[BGMan]

When you hand her that ring, pass it off as no big deal. Maybe even act as if you're joking. She'll be thinking, "Is this guy really committed to me? I think I should reinforce him a bit! He's driving me nuts!"

BGMan

 

[myfriendblu]

I hate to say it fellas,
but the challenge NEVER ends. EVER. The competition never stops for anyone.

If your comfortable with that and you think you can handle it, and your at least 28 years old and financially successfull and the chik has little/no baggage and no previous marriage AND no previous kids, get a pre-nup and consider it. If you can't answer yes to all the conditions above, DO NOT DO IT.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by ShawnStJames
I've found that the whole CHALLENGE/Mystery/Interest Level thing to be ESSENTIAL in dating. EVERY time ive abandoned the principles ive been burned.

Here goes...I want to marry this girl, but how exactly do I KEEP THE CHALLENGE WHEN SHE KNOWS IM COMMITTING MYSELF TOTALLY TO HER?

There are two things to understand about women and IL. First, the DJ techniques that will raise her interest level and second, the ways to maintain a high IL.

Challenge is definitely to raise a woman's interest level. But what happens when you DJ to the nines and she reaches the 100% level and commits herself and her life toward a LTR? Does it really need to be any higher?

No way! Now you go into maintenance mode. This is where a lot of LTR hit the bricks. Both men and women seem to become complacent once they 'claim their prize.' I believe it is up to DJs to maintain their woman's high IL. To do this, you need to focus on the three things that women need in a LTR, affection, romance and respect.

As a DJ, if you can keep those three things in your relationship along with career, in-laws and children, you will have a woman who is completely committed to the relationship. In short, even though you become a husband and a father, you should always be a DJ at your core.

Women who commit to LTRs and see that their guys are still a catch and can attract women will put forth additional effort to keep her prize.

DJ on!!!!