ive liked this girl for like a few weeks now and she keeps sending mixed messages like one day last week she bent down to pick up a pen and put her head rite on my lap and stayed till the teacher yelled (i know it sounds like a lie but it isn't), on other days she like touches me when she walks by and still others she completely ignores me. i recently got my license and i showed it to her and she asked "can you drive me around sometime?" i said "yes." and she finished by saying "thanks Chris." so basicly i want to know what i should do because ive been playing hard to get and acting as if i didn't like her, pretty much what's my next step?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
help interpeting what a girl said
- Thread starter cjfoshu
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
The girl's job is to get your attention and make you want to pursue her. She did her job. A guy's job is to pursue her if he is interested. You are NOT doing your job.
Think of an idea for a date, a specific plan and time. Then you go up to her and ask her to go do the specific thing at a specific time. If she likes you (which she seems to) then she will say yes unless it's a bad time...and if it is she will offer an alternative time. Once you set up the date you keep it and if there is chemistry you attempt to kiss her. It's really quite simple...
Think of an idea for a date, a specific plan and time. Then you go up to her and ask her to go do the specific thing at a specific time. If she likes you (which she seems to) then she will say yes unless it's a bad time...and if it is she will offer an alternative time. Once you set up the date you keep it and if there is chemistry you attempt to kiss her. It's really quite simple...
ma man... what needs to be interpreted? she's doin all this stuff... it's time YOU start smashing... it seems like you're clueless though so first make sure she's not trying to just use you for your car or something, do it on your own terms and jus start by tryin to **** her... that is what you want? correct or no?
And in your spare time, read the damn Bible, n00b.
Definitely don't let her use you for your car. I've determined from experience that if you go out of your way at all to take a girl somewhere in a vehicle, this act will instantly and dramatically lower her attraction for you. Even if the place is close by and it wasn't going out of your way much...Don't even let her get the impression that you're doing her any favors -- until after you've sex3d her or made out or something.first make sure she's not trying to just use you for your car or something
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
afrojiggles
Don Juan
you should hae been bit ****y and funny with her,lol anyway drive her around to some quite place and score the panties
Randallpink83
Master Don Juan
girls are naturals at giving mixed signals... *****es.. I love em.. I wouldnt think to much about it.. go for it
Wyldfire said:The girl's job is to get your attention and make you want to pursue her. She did her job. A guy's job is to pursue her if he is interested. You are NOT doing your job.
OK hold on. I thought that's what a wussy would do. I thought the point was to get the girl to pursue you. Please, correct me if I'm wrong (not saying I'm not), and explain in detail why.
TruthHurts
Don Juan
Jeezes..just invite her over your house and f.ck her already... cause obviously girl not shy, so if your not hitting it somebody else is/will
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
MacDiddy
Master Don Juan
translation - "would you be my lap dog"... "thank you very much"
The girls who will ask you out tend to be masculinized hors that, if you're looking for anything serious, you should stay away from. The feminine girls require you to ask them out, for the most part.OK hold on. I thought that's what a wussy would do. I thought the point was to get the girl to pursue you. Please, correct me if I'm wrong (not saying I'm not), and explain in detail why.
You just have to be semi-smooth about it and not get needy or clingy around them. Once you've gone out with her a time or two and gotten her more hooked, then she might pursuing you a bit more (and you can back off somewhat).
Being a man is all about taking action, tho, not hoping for it to come to you.
You will never get a date if you don't pursue one...Jon55 said:OK hold on. I thought that's what a wussy would do. I thought the point was to get the girl to pursue you. Please, correct me if I'm wrong (not saying I'm not), and explain in detail why.
You just don't pursue like a stalker or desperate cling on...but you still have to go after what you want because it will not come to you.
"can you drive me around sometime?"
Better yet, let me just emphasize the main word, and read it with the emphasis I am going to put on it:
Better yet, let me just emphasize the main word, and read it with the emphasis I am going to put on it:
"can you drive me around sometime?"
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
BlackJackal
Master Don Juan
Drive her to your house and smash the p****. No date required if she's diggin you for real.
Play the Game
Master Don Juan
lemme guess she has no car and needs a chauffeur to take her to the mall?
Figure out if shes more into you or getting a ride. If she doesn't care about driving then park at her house, and give her a "ride". lol
Figure out if shes more into you or getting a ride. If she doesn't care about driving then park at her house, and give her a "ride". lol
I believe this behavior is somewhat immature. It seems like she's unsure of how to act in order to get your attention, but not to give out her feelings too much. Probably, she's afraid that she might lose your appreciation if she shows too much, but if she stays 'cold' and 'distant', you will think that she has lost interest, therefore there is a kind of mixture.
Possibly she's waiting for you to make a first step.
Give it a try and act naturally. You've got nothing to lose.
Good luck, lad!
Possibly she's waiting for you to make a first step.
Give it a try and act naturally. You've got nothing to lose.
Good luck, lad!
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.