"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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help! im such a p#ssy

omega05

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Did you even get this girl's number instead of the first thing you say to her being "lets get lunch" and then messaging her on fb saying "lets get coffee". Does she even know anything about you to want to grab lunch with you?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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No I did not..^ aaaannd that's why I'm here .... Because I've never went out to kick game, the ladies I've messed with/gone out with have always thrown themselves at me... But that's over and now I'm out of my cave with poor macking skills...

As per did she know anything about me?? I guess nothing deep, it was a Sat class that met once a week, so about 14classes , she missed some as did I... We didn't become too personal , but on our break we went for coffee on campus, and pretty much just socialize among ourselves since the rest of the class sucked..

Regardless that's done, it'll only be a waste if If it doesn't help me step it up...
 

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(It's done, but I am receptive to any tips,thrashings, suggestions etc)
 

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Here's what your missing in a nutshell. Women are exactly like men. They go gaga over a guy just like a guy would for Jessica Alba or Scarlett Johanssen. The difference is that to a woman things like strength, sense of humor, intelligence, wit, creativity, confidence, ambition etc are what a nice ass is to a guy. Or a nice set of boobs. Or a pretty face. Etc etc. Women definitely rate looks but its only out of like 20 or so different factors, where for a guy its the litmus test. Think about how crazy a nice ass, or a pretty face make you feel. This also happens to women but only with a combination of the above attributes.

So the question is how to display these qualities and not how to get the girl. The girls will come as you become more adept at displaying such qualities, emphasizing your strengths of course. This is what generates IL. You did nothing to show her how attractive you are.

This is only the first step in a process. But focus on this first to improve the quality of female who you come to know.

Also don't act like it matters, it paints a picture of you as desperate when a "good" one comes by and you act like its the last bottle of water in the desert. This gives the woman the impression that you are rejected by other women, and to save time they don't want to go through the process of dating to find out your a dud. Some other woman has already done the work for her.
 

Ihateinitiatingalot7

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mxmxmx said:
So chick from class, showed interest, but seemed turned off by a 5yr age difference, I'm 25 she's 20... We stuck around each other in class and during class breaks but since I'm the biggest p#ssy on earth I didn't make a move, well I did once , asked to go to lunch, I was nervous so she obviously sensed that. Left it alone for 2-3 weeks stayed cool like it never happened. School ended and I didn't say anything else. End of story??? No, since I'm an idiot I messaged her on fb (we weren't friends on fb)and said, let's get coffee, she answered that she was working now that the semester was over, then she added me on fb...

Soooo I fcked up because I'm such an idiot.... And yes its done , time move onIo. But I want to give it one last swing at it and ill leave it alone, and take it as a lesson learned...

What do I say..??? I'm guessing something really bold/aggressive any tips...
use your past success you've had with women as a confidence booster
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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