"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Help! Im 24 and still a virgin

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Originally posted by noPride
I don't want to be a super-suave pick up artist, all I want is to get some sex once in a while, get a girlfriend, etc.

I don't care if I don't lose my virginity tonight, as long as I feel I've made an effort to chat up some girls, be more confident, smile, be positive etc, then at least I can be proud of THAt.
I think you're in with the majority of the people on the forum when you say that - for the most part, a lot of guys here aren't looking to become uber-DJ's... they just want to find a girl (or girls) to call their own. Your attitude is spot on about not caring; it might not happen tonight, or next week, or even next month - but if you aren't negative and instead are fun to be around, then it'll happen far sooner than later. Good luck tonight.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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There's a lot of good advice here but I don't like the list of small goals that somebody wrote.
Goals provide motivation. Also, his goals don't necessarily have to be geared toward dating women. Before I became much more social, I focussed on getting women. It was only because of my goal to score dates that I realized that I needed to do some repair to the social aspect of my life. I began setting goals for myself for becoming much more social in real life. When I landed myself a part-time job, one of the first things I did was go up to some guy who was working and initiated a conversation. After a while, I also set a goal for myself to initiate conversations with anybody new on the job.

This was a MAJOR help to my socially retarded personality.
 

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Last Night

So anyway I went out, had a few drinks, and had a good time. I was on the dancefloor, dancing, smiling etc. I danced with one girl, held hands a bit, felt her body a bit (and she didn't spray me with mace), but there was no tongue action. It wasn't the best night ever but it was the best night I've had in a while. I will have to probably start approching girls in things like the street, work etc. I will have to change my attitude and thankfully last night, I didn't have the virgin inferority complex. I guess this will take a little time
 

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I want to be a super-suave pick up artist. I could have business caeds printed :eek: OMG OMG!!!! Thats a great idea :D I can say "heres my card".

Matt the super-suave pick up artist.

Nah just kidding, as if Id give her my number without her earning it :D.

Try the internet for grls man. Its a lottery, but you can buy an infinate amount of tickets.
 

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Re: Last Night

Originally posted by noPride
So anyway I went out, had a few drinks, and had a good time. I was on the dancefloor, dancing, smiling etc. I danced with one girl, held hands a bit, felt her body a bit (and she didn't spray me with mace), but there was no tongue action. It wasn't the best night ever but it was the best night I've had in a while. I will have to probably start approching girls in things like the street, work etc. I will have to change my attitude and thankfully last night, I didn't have the virgin inferority complex. I guess this will take a little time
Congratulation, Im proud of you, but I knew you could do it. You want out and had a positive attitude and you had a good time. You feel a little bit better, and as long as you hold on to that positve attitude you can feel like this everyday.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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