Help! I noticed something (LTR related)

[SoSuaveDude]

It seems that the beginning of relationships are the greatest overall period of togetherness. Emotions are flowing, euphoric feelings are mutual, and nothing could be quite better. However, over time, feelings fade, attraction diminishes, and interest level gradually plummets regardless of "special dj techniques" to preserve or reignite her attraction to you. Isn't this why divorce rates are so high?

So...Is this so called "love" a temporary emotion, and couples who have sustained a relationship for 2+ years unexcitingly decide to continue the relationship (prolonging an inevitable breakup). At 2 years, isn't the initial attraction bound to be long gone? And marriages that last longer than 5 years rarely seem to consist of mutual happiness.

I have once heard that a boy can pull any given HB, but it takes a man to keep a women on her heels and stabilize the attraction. But how can attraction be mutually stabilized when it's human nature to become uninterested with a predictable stimuli (and the "newness" has worn off)?

Thanks to anyone that can help clarify these topics for me, or provide some experience.

 

[Sabol]

It seems that the beginning of relationships are the greatest overall period of togetherness. Emotions are flowing, euphoric feelings are mutual, and nothing could be quite better. However, over time, feelings fade, attraction diminishes, and interest level gradually plummets regardless of "special dj techniques" to preserve or reignite her attraction to you. Isn't this why divorce rates are so high?

So...Is this so called "love" a temporary emotion, and couples who have sustained a relationship for 2+ years unexcitingly decide to continue the relationship (prolonging an inevitable breakup). At 2 years, isn't the initial attraction bound to be long gone? And marriages that last longer than 5 years rarely seem to consist of mutual happiness.

I have once heard that a boy can pull any given HB, but it takes a man to keep a women on her heels and stabilize the attraction. But how can attraction be mutually stabilized when it's human nature to become uninterested with a predictable stimuli (and the "newness" has worn off)?

Thanks to anyone that can help clarify these topics for me, or provide some experience.

The initial attraction is infatuation or limerence. It's been scientifically proven to last a max of 2 years. That's why screening women is so important. You want to find a woman who fits your criteria and loves you for you, not because of a feeling that will fade over time.

 

[bigneil]

Yes, the honeymoon phase is the best, but after 2 years, no matter how hot they are, it's like looking at the same Playboy centerfold over and over. You want to procreate with other types by that point - which is why monogamy isn't really meant to be. Been there, done her. As Sabol said, you must have something more meaningful to hold you together after that (and especially don't be dating a female player or cougar).