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Help - I lose sexual interest when emotions are involved

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Is this normal? I noticed I lose sexual attraction for a woman when I start caring about her or we start to connect more.

It's always happened as far back as I can remember and it makes me want to be unfaithful with a stranger or someone I'm not that invested in.

Am I doomed to be single?
 

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SeeThruIt said:
Is this normal? I noticed I lose sexual attraction for a woman when I start caring about her or we start to connect more.

It's always happened as far back as I can remember and it makes me want to be unfaithful with a stranger or someone I'm not that invested in.

Am I doomed to be single?
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Is it that you are loosing attraction, or attempting to be too AFC and gentleman like, and not wanting to make any sexual moves? That's how I used to be.
 
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Is it that you are loosing attraction, or attempting to be too AFC and gentleman like, and not wanting to make any sexual moves? That's how I used to be.
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No I lose attraction. It's odd it's like when they start being more than just "sex objects" I lose sexual attraction
 
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No I lose attraction. It's odd it's like when they start being more than just "sex objects" I lose sexual attraction
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Would you say it's like women who are attracted to bad boys, but you have the attraction to "bad girls"?

I am not a country music fan but there is a song I do like that goes: "I like my women a little on the... trashy side". For you, is it that once that "trashyness" goes away, is that the point in time when the attraction is lost?
 

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Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I just feel once emotions are involved I can't treat them like "sluts" in the bedroom. Maybe too much porn lol
 
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I just feel once emotions are involved I can't treat them like "sluts" in the bedroom. Maybe too much porn lol
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I'm interested in your issue because I have had similar myself in the past. As I mentioned before about me being too AFC and having too much "respect" for the woman to be as sexual. ( I've also gone through spells where I plain flat didn't want sex, period, but that's not you I don't think )

I think PairPlus hit it regarding the "inter slvt". There is a sh!t ton of information on this site about that in various threads. Once you mentally understand that 1) women want sex just as much or more than men and 2) while women sometimes like the slow romantic sex, BUT.. they also still want to be treated like slvts in the bedroom.

Heck, try going up to one of these women you have the issue with, with a serious look on your face, and say "wanna fvck?". Grab her and escort her to the bedroom in full control.
 
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I'm interested in your issue because I have had similar myself in the past. As I mentioned before about me being too AFC and having too much "respect" for the woman to be as sexual. ( I've also gone through spells where I plain flat didn't want sex, period, but that's not you I don't think )

I think PairPlus hit it regarding the "inter slvt". There is a sh!t ton of information on this site about that in various threads. Once you mentally understand that 1) women want sex just as much or more than men and 2) while women sometimes like the slow romantic sex, BUT.. they also still want to be treated like slvts in the bedroom.

Heck, try going up to one of these women you have the issue with, with a serious look on your face, and say "wanna fvck?". Grab her and escort her to the bedroom in full control.
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Yeah I've done that where I mentally tell myself to fvck her like a slut and it works but I just find it interesting that once I've gotten to know a woman more and my initial view of her as a sexual object starts to turn into she's a human being I lose that sexual motivation to fvck her silly.

The mention of porn makes sense since in porn I don't know the girls at all and they're portrayed simply as sex objects.
 
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Porn has never been my issue.

Sex however - hot, sweaty, aggressive, male dominant sex is because I love it.

You cannot read much about female sexuality to know that women love it that way too. And once you 'get there' physically, you can see and feel that women respond to it.

Do whatever you have to to get past what's clearly only in your head.
 
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