Help! I have oneitis!

[LilKid]

I have oneitis/infatuation really bad. Now, knowing this is going to be beneficial. The bad thing is I don't like being infatuated with her, in fact, I wish I didn't like her at all. What can I do to forget about her? We're in the same class a few times a week, so I can't just ignore her, any help is appreciated.

I also find it hard to just stop sms/block her on AIM etc. How can I stop this AFC behaviour

 

[Microphone Fiend]

Ok I've been there and I am kinda still there currently, here's my advice:

-Block her on aim or whatever you have, that's what I did, but now i don't even go on aim because it seems to preoccupy to many people from getting on with their life
-Catch yourself whenever you are thinking about her, I remember whenever I had a spare moment the first thing my mind would think about was that girl, and what she had done and does it show if she likes me
- Talk to other women, that'll make you better with the opposite sex and you'll be having fun so you can take your mind off of her
- Disassociate yourself with her, if you here of a place with just you and her or her and a little bit of people, steer clear of it. I know it seems bad but you need to stay away from the source
-The #1 piece of advice I can give you is: DO NOT FLIRT TO MAKE HER JEALOUS. This is what I used to do but in the end it is childish and gets nothing accomplished. You should flirt to make yourself feel good, not others feel bad.

I got a lot of tips so PM me if you want more , or to be more specific on any of them

 

[WingS]

Originally posted by Microphone Fiend

-Block her on aim or whatever you have, that's what I did, but now i don't even go on aim because it seems to preoccupy to many people from getting on with their life

sadly this is so true, i think im going to have to do the same

 

[LilKid]

your mailbox = full

mailbox = full

The thing is, I have oneitis bad. If I block her, I have to block her buddies too and its a few peeps. BUT i find if i dont block her, i always reply which is dumb.

What do i do in class too? (She sits next to me, so i cant ignore her - i wana protect my rep not be labeled an ignorant jackass)

If it makes any difference, I think she likes me (actually im pretty sure she likes me, but she has a bf - yes ive asked her when I didn't know she had a bf, but that is long and complicated). Anyway this is good and bad, good because if i play my cards right i could prolly nail her, bad cos I don't particularly want to like her, i just cant help it.

Advice appreciated.

Thanks

 

[Microphone Fiend]

Inbox no longer full

yo, I cleared my inbox...

Anyways maybe you should move seats or something like that. I used to not make moves around because people would associate them with my one-itis, but once I moved I realized most people are too caught up in their own life in order to see what you are doin.

If she's got a bf and you've made your intentions clear, there is nothing to do but move on, but if she don't know and has still been givin you signals you need to make a move that is bold on your behalf, girls are insecure so they have bf just to say they have them and feel a part of society. They'll settle for 2nd best if their #1 pick is not ballsy enuff to approach.

Why don't you want to like her? Because you think you might get rejected or because she doesn't like you back. It is cool to like someone just don't become infatuated with her, and cut it off if she doesn't reciprocate your feelings.

 

[LilKid]

I don't want to like her because she has a boyfriend. Because I couldn't see her doing any good for me except getting my heart broken (that's how bad I have oneitis - hey least i know i need to change something - thats the good thing ). Also because, I don't think she likes me back - i have made my intentions clear.