Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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help i have alot of confidence still trouble getting girls

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arlihgt guys im alrihgt lookin probalely like a 8 and i do lift and am about 11-12% bodyfat wit alrihgt abs and big arms... im 17 and i go up to women all the time.. my problem isnt gettin the numbers and s*it like that.. it is simply getting them to hang out when i get the number. i will usulaly call the girls the next or 2nd day and try to hang out wit them and it never works.. i know if i keep trying i will look desperate so most times i will just give up after one or two times.. .and is it just me or do girls ever call guys to hang out?? cuz i never really get girls calling me to hang out i always have to ask.. any help here
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Well, first of all, you shouldn't call a girl the next day or the second day...that looks a bit desperate. Wait about three days.

And usually girls don't call the guys, the guys have to call. Girls don't really call strangers. And for this reason, I never give my phone number to her unless she gave me hers..because a girl rarely calls strangers. And next time, set up the activity on the spot. The moment you get her number, set up the activity.

(she gives you her number)

(you write it down)

Hey ___(her name) _________, I'll call you on __(date and time)_______. Let's go and _________(an activity she likes to do). I know this place that does __________(an activity). It's called ______(name of the place)Well, I gotta go. I'll give you a call sometime.
 

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Had that same problem

I had the same problem man. And the problem is, you're not creating enough attraction with the girl during this first meeting, that she probably has no reason to hang out with you. You didn't make her FEEL anything.

Read my post, I actually just posted this last night. And it's when I just realized about this whole attraction thing. This should help to see your problem.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=102933
 

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Dannyrt34 said:
I had the same problem man. And the problem is, you're not creating enough attraction with the girl during this first meeting, that she probably has no reason to hang out with you. You didn't make her FEEL anything.

Read my post, I actually just posted this last night. And it's when I just realized about this whole attraction thing. This should help to see your problem.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=102933
Oh wait, I just seen you already posted on my thread. Well then, to create some more attraction. I didn't pay attention as much to what I said, but I made sure of HOW I said it, and lots KINO. At one point in my interaction with the girl, I even grabbed both her hands while we talked. I stood close to her, and since she was short and petite, I glazed down into her eyes. It almost looked as if she was melting. Just some more examples from the field that worked for me.

By the way, you still need to develop your own style, it's hard to give advice because I can only tell you whats working for me. You need to just use what you KNOW about attracting women, and think of ways you can mix these in with your OWN personality.
 
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arlihgt thanks guys ur right... i really just go out and get the number but dont really use kino or anything soo i gotta make attraction thanks
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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You haven't shown them enough value for them to want to hang out with you. You're not fun enough / entertaining enough. Once u get that way, girls will call u non stop.
 
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thanks alot guys u all are right i mostly spend like 5 min get their number then thats it....now i got the idea i thought looks alone would be enough so i focused more on that but guess not... cuz i know from a guy's prespective looks alone will get me to call a girl
 

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sportf190 said:
thanks alot guys u all are right i mostly spend like 5 min get their number then thats it....now i got the idea i thought looks alone would be enough so i focused more on that but guess not... cuz i know from a guy's prespective looks alone will get me to call a girl
I read in a post that guys are very visual, which is why looks alone attracts you to a girl. Girls are very emotional, so even though looks help, they need to FEEL something from you to be attracted. I used to be like this too, I'm quite happy with the way I look, so I thought thats all I needed. Man was I wrong, thank god for sosuave.
 

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DJ Tips is for giving tips, not asking for them. Please read the description of the forum before you post in it, thanks.

Moved to DJD.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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