"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Help, I feel like a hypocrite

Dhoulmagus

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My friends are thirsty single guys and I'm the only one in a relationship pretty much. They like to go to bars and pester me to hit on other trashy women with them, but I just get drunk and stay on the sidelines. I do keep re downloading tinder and my gf noticed, but I proved to her that I just troll around and not message any girls on there. I respect her and do not want the relationship to end, but I kind of feel like a hypocrite for doing this. If I were to make a topic about her going to clubs/bars with her friends or her having tinder than yall would be like <insert passive aggressive behavior> or just straight up dump her. Why is it alright for me to do it, but not the female?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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TheMonkeyKing

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Sometimes I think you troll this place too. But I'll humour you with a condescending response anyway.

1) What makes you think it is 'alright for you to do it, but not the female'...? Who told you what you were doing is 'alright'? Are you f*cking 12 years old or something?

2) Are you seriously that bored, do you seriously have nothing better to do than go around the internet trolling people who have little or no impact on your life....? Make you feel cool, does it? Make you feel like a BIG MAN? Enriches your soul, does it?

That, my friend, is the one and only true hypocrisy of internet trolling: going around ripping other people for their behaviours and opinions, when actually the trolls own existence is so empty that they have to externalise their frustration by mocking others. And in the most cowardly way possible.... anonymously, at a distance over the internet where your 'victims' can't retaliate with the smack in the chops that you so deserve.

Grow the f*ck up you sad d!ckhead.

One hundred million years of human evolution and this is where we are at... FFS
 

LMFAO

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Dhoulmagus said:
Why is it alright for me to do it, but not the female?
Who said it is? You follow your own values. If you are in a serious relationship and don't want to see other girls then don't. It really is that fvcking simple.
 

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Hypocrisy is perfectly ok and is actually a useful life skill. You'll find all the successful people in the world excel at it. They are quick to point fingers at others in the name of morals but in the same situation, they'd do the (so called) inappropriate thing without a flinch.
 

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So you need the validation and get on Tinder, but would likely dump the girl if she did the same. Nothing wrong with that, it's the DJ sosuave way.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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mangotot

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The only problem is the OP is not joining his mates and hitting on the 'trashy girls' and staying on the sidelines. You shouldn't bother with tinder because tgere is a chance you'll get caught. Dump that $hit.
 
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