"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Help! I Effed Up!

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So, I just moved into an off campus house on a block with many attractive girls.
I was sitting on my porch with my dog and started conversations with different girls walking by trying not to be creepy. I need to work on my porch game...So one girl I was interested in told me she worked at a nightclub in the area. For some reason, I told her I was 21, but wont be until February. I know she was feeling me, she asked for me to take her number and text her, she didnt have her phone with her. She said she will invite me out when she goes and vice versa. I have a fake ID, but don't want to resort to that..id rather be honest then end up getting rejected and being so embarrassed.

I initially texted her saying, "Hey, it's jon from the block." She replied, "Hey Jon from the block. It's *****, lol." I havent replied to her text. Thinking about waiting til tomorrow, texting something along the lines of hey ***** from the block and inviting her over for drinks with my roommate and i before going out, shell bring a friend, and ill break the underage news to her during a game of pong
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I was just thinking that maybe i wouldn't tell her that im really 20 and see how we get along and tell her that i'm not interested in going to a bar, my friend is having a party. And if we see each other again I will tell her then and save the awkwardness.
 

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use the fake id & just go drinking with her. stop making your "rules" stop you from getting her.
 

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Out of no where, this girl texted me telling me that she has class all night but this place is having happy hour. I asked her if that meant she's be in class and id be going without her and she said no she can't go but she knows guys like to eat so she told me....(so she's thinking about me?) so i said lets do something tomorrow then and she said shes working all weekend and wont really be available...we discussed going to the dog park together but no specific date because of her plans...her final text was a response to one of my jokes and i didnt reply, i just cut it off there...
What's my next step? When should I contact her or wait for her to contact me? She still thinks I'm 21 too, lol
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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LOL, "Porch Game"...

Give us an example of what you say to these girls as they walk by. Perhaps I am under-utilizing my own porch.
 

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Atom Smasher said:
LOL, "Porch Game"...

Give us an example of what you say to these girls as they walk by. Perhaps I am under-utilizing my own porch.
I usually just start with hi, and see where it goes. Sometimes they smile and keep waling and other times theyll stop and chat. Having a dog with me doesn't hurt ;D
 

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Sounds like you've come up with a novel idea. Good luck with your porch game! ;)
 

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How do you think I should tell this girl that I lied to her about my age? Were having a "day date" later this week.
 

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"Hey, I got something serious to tell you. And i hope this doesn't leave this mall. I'm actually a vampire. I've been (your actual age) for a longggg... time."

Maintain a stern look and do not smile when you say this. You may do so and tell her you're really your actual age afterwards.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Haha you must be a trueblood fan! As an update - sh texted me the other day around 1 am telling me that I need to let her know if I'm coming to the club she works at on a particular night she has free invatations for and wanted to have enough for me and my friends. I just didn't answer. Todaay, it 2 days later I sent her a text saying, "hey let's go to the park tomorrow" which she agreed to do over text prior...no response. I like that vampire approach its funny but ill just tell her that I said I was 21 because she works at a club and I thought she was cute or that I wanþed to be able to go out with her.
 

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Dude quit playing around. It's a chick. If she digs you, you can get away with whatever you want to say....at any age. Just don't be a creeper with how you say it.

you 'let do something this weekend'
her 'i have to work all weekend'
you 'that's unfortunate,but your lucky,were meeting up for lunch anyways 2 p.m. at (spot) see you there'
 

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this chicks interest seems pretty low honestly i dont play this sh1t with a b1tch. its typical BS games. I aint chasing no hoe and thats the bottomline. A real ass chick who likes you is not going to make you jump through burning hoops and symp yourself out to hang with her.

Why didnt you just tell her the truth from the getgo about your age? Im 20 but I got a fake ID so I hope it gets me in at such an such otherwise we can just have some drinks at my place.

Easy as that son. If she is feeling you she will be at your place having some drinks.
 

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I don't think her interest is low, in fact on the contrary. She texts me out of nowhere almost every other day.
 

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I have a feeling her unresponsiveness might be in response to me not answering her promptly/ignoring some texts.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I have plans to go to the park with her and our dogs tomorrow afternoon.
How do I keep from being friendzoned?
 
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