Help! I cannot figure this chick out!

[mahon83050]

I need your help in trying to figure this chick out: Here is the scenario, we have been out twice, she is a friend of my cousins and she lives over an hour away.

I sense she is not overly into me, so I decided to give her a test. A couple of weeks ago, she told me she was going skiing for the weekend. I figured I would test her IL and said...."have a good time and GIVE ME a call when you get back. I thought if she did not call, that would give me my answer. Well, she actually did call, but it was almost 5 days later when she got back. Since then we have been playing phone tag. Granted, she always returns my phone calls when I call. I asked her to hang out next week and she states she is very busy, she cannot tell yet. She is busy, she works fulltime, goes to school at night and is rushing for a sorority.

IMO, it seems she is giving me the runaround. The question is, why would she call me on her own will and always promptly call me back. She just called me before with her friend in the car.

BTW, I have been a DJ, always ending the convo first, never calling just to talk and sometimes going days with out calling her back. What gives?

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

She has some interest, otherwise she would have never called! However I personally thimk that was a lame test...because it was too passsive and left the ball in her court. You are pursuing her like a friend and not as a potential mate. Men are the aggressors and you should have outright asked her out.

If she is truly busy then just tell her that when she is not busy within the next two weeks (give her a definite time frame) to call you if you want to do such and such! If she doesn't take you up on your offer then this was intentionally done and you should not pursue any longer!

 

[mahon83050]

Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
She has some interest, otherwise she would have never called! However I personally thimk that was a lame test...because it was too passsive and left the ball in her court. You are pursuing her like a friend and not as a potential mate. Men are the aggressors and you should have outright asked her out.

If she is truly busy then just tell her that when she is not busy within the next two weeks (give her a definite time frame) to call you if you want to do such and such! If she doesn't take you up on your offer then this was intentionally done and you should not pursue any longer!

Thanks for your reply. That is exactly what I did, I told her I would like to hang out again and for her to call me when she is free.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

I emphasized to put a time limit - this will give her a time table and only then will you know her true interest level. If she calls in a month her interest level is low or she is spending time with someone else!!