- Help here! Girl Rel. noob -

[Maxfarsigth]

Hi guys!.. reporting here:

Ok so this is the first time I actually hook up with a decent (not psycho or afc-like girl). Shes very mature, fun and has a sweet Azz =)

(if anyones is interested id say shes a HB6.5 lol no BIG deal but its my personal record lol)

BUT.
Ive been facing certain issues

FIRST
Because of the fact shes very mature and decent and im still (i think lol, not sure, whatever) an AFC. She has taken control over certain things, for example: when we make out, she has the lead. Shes the one with the tempo
and im followin.. Dont take me wrong here, i really enjoy kissing w/her but my lack of experience is taking control out of me, and as a Developing-DJ I DONT
LIKE THAT!

Still though: i really like the fact that im learning quite a few things with her (i think lol). like for example: when to lip-bite when making out =)

SECOND
I dont see this girl often (twice a week). The two of us are very busy: both study/work/gym. But dam: this girls is used to recieve so many calls and txt msj and not answering (mainly from her AFC friend lol!) that she doesnt write
me any. Im the one with the calling and sms and going to her house.

Well not everything is that bad: everytime I go crazy about going some place I like, shes does make time to acompany me.

SO
Im scared about
- going oneitis
- turning this rel. into AFC
- Shes not worth me
Ques
- Should I dont bother and have plain fun?
- Should I say something to her?
- Should I test her some way?

Thanx folks, you guys rock! =)

 

[Randallpink83]

maybe i'm just being dumb... it is 5:30 in the morning and I had a long perfect night at the clubs.... but I'm not getting your questions??? whats going on? what do you need?

 

[Maxfarsigth]

hahaha ! =) dude !
Ok ill try to explein myself in another way..

She has control when making out because of my lack of experience:
- Should I keep letting her teach me, and just follow?
I guess trying to apply what ive learn would help..

She doesnt call/sms, only messenger me:
- How can I make her call and sms me ?
- Should I talk to her about it ?
I guess her AFC friend screw up, and now i dont get mi sms answered.

Im thinking of taking a positive and confident attitude about this and just:
- Learn from her and have fun and
- Go out with her and call her whenever I want to because its what i want..

..but i dont want to fall into some sort of nice guy...

Im just asking for help and your coments about what youd do and why, on how to handle this two issues because i havent had a decent relation with a mature girl before.

 

[Maxfarsigth]

I dont know if its my spelling, gramar or writting...
But nobody likes to read/post my threads?
(sorry english its just not my lenguaje..)
Well anyway:

I sort of found a solution for the problems I mentioned before:
(with the help of my DJ friend, wingman?)

PRBLM1: "She has control when making out because of my lack of experience:"
- I learned a couple of tricks to implement when making out with her
- Making out is like makin a song: you got hi tones and basses and chorus and solos and that. Its all about: mixing/crativity and fun.
- I she doesnt care about my lack of experience, Im learning stuff and we both have fun: so.. THIS AINT NO PROBLEM!

PRBLM2: "She doesnt call/sms, only messenger me"
- Her AFC friend texts and calls her all the time (every 1-2 hr), but im not her AFC friend!
- I guess men usually take initiative when callin.
- Interest level is not a problem past certain point of the relation. I think I have reached that.
- Still thoug: i told her we should manage to see each other more often in a cool way.

Ill continue to have this relaxed way to do stuff cause otherwise i think i coul loose my head/cntrol.. and we dont whant that !

Well, any opinions, critics or what ever are well recieved.
And if nobody whants to say a thing..
I dont care: ill continue "helping" other guys just to see if my help works

c ya

 

[JDA70]

Don't worry about it just keep
calling her and setting up meetings about
twice a week.

SO

Im scared about
- going oneitis

If you have time go approach other women.

- turning this rel. into AFC

If you really understand what an AFC is
then it won't happen unless you allow it to.

- Shes not worth me

She's not better then you and your not better then her.


Ques

- Should I dont bother and have plain fun?

Yes

- Should I say something to her?

No

- Should I test her some way?

No


When you kiss her be the first one to pull away.
Make it like a dance, 2 steps foward, one step back

 

[Maxfarsigth]

thanx man ! thats pretty much what i was thnkin of doin.
everything is going great.
And i liked the way you replyed: very clear!

I think ive managed to do this DevelopingAFC stuff the way its meant to be done =)

Still gotta practice the advanced kissing.. but hey before reading this: i actually did the

When you kiss her be the first one to pull away.

she smiled and then was craving for more. that felt good.

You know what.. i think im not gonna post any more "little problem" stuff unless its something really important or really bothering me. Ill just go like:

- Act in a Relaxed/DJ/Man way.
- Trust the gut. Follow the instincs.
- And in case of emergency do a Bibble/forum search.

Ill recommend this to everyone in the forum.

Thanks bye

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Kissing is like riding a bike. Eventually you will get the hang of it. Now, YOU must be the dominate one when, it comes to sex and making out.

Here is a great thread on this type of situation: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=16888