Help her and not get friendzoned?

[CastlesMadeOfSand]

Hey guys I've been lurking the forum for probably almost a year now and improved a huge amount. It's crazy how much you can change your life. I'm a senior in highschool and this year is the first year I've got a bunch of girls that like me. I used to be nervous and looked at life semi negatively but now it's going great.

When this year started off I met a bunch of new people and this freshman girl stood out to me. She had huge interest before we even talked. When I started talking to her I was careful to not put her on a pedestal, not being needy and everything. Then the first day that I got her number I forgot exactly what I joked about but soon after she told me she gets depressed sometimes,used to be suicidal and used to cut herself. At first is didn't know how to react because i didn't want to friendzone myself but I decided it was worth the risk just to help someone as long as it was serious and I was careful. I talked about it a little bit and told her my experiences. I'm trying to keep this post short but it's not working.

I still felt I was doing good after that. I never really pursued too much outside of school (won't talk about it now but it's my problem). Last Sunday she tried to commit suicide. I just found out yesterday when she got out of the hospital. I realized my problem with girls recently so I'm going to fix that. I don't really know where to go from here? I guess I just need some advice from you guys on how to help her but not screw myself in the process. If I have to I would rather help. And if it wasn't serious then I would just put it off as drama. I'm still careful with what I talk about with her too.

I realized this question is more about life in general but I would rather talk to you guys than others. Thanks for reading and thanks for all the info you guys put up here. It helps more people than you realize.

 

[skinnyguy]

Is she a virgin? If so make sure she isn't for long. This girl is bad news and will be a net cost to your life. Enjoy the ride and dump her quickly.

This is coming from someone who attempted suicide in the past.

She might just be a BPD attention wh0re

 

[UndercoverAlpha]

I wouldn't interact with her, if you fvck her and then she kills herself you will most likely get blamed.

 

[Dan08]

Hey guys I've been lurking the forum for probably almost a year now and improved a huge amount. It's crazy how much you can change your life. I'm a senior in highschool and this year is the first year I've got a bunch of girls that like me. I used to be nervous and looked at life semi negatively but now it's going great.

When this year started off I met a bunch of new people and this freshman girl stood out to me. She had huge interest before we even talked. When I started talking to her I was careful to not put her on a pedestal, not being needy and everything. Then the first day that I got her number I forgot exactly what I joked about but soon after she told me she gets depressed sometimes,used to be suicidal and used to cut herself. At first is didn't know how to react because i didn't want to friendzone myself but I decided it was worth the risk just to help someone as long as it was serious and I was careful. I talked about it a little bit and told her my experiences. I'm trying to keep this post short but it's not working.

I still felt I was doing good after that. I never really pursued too much outside of school (won't talk about it now but it's my problem). Last Sunday she tried to commit suicide. I just found out yesterday when she got out of the hospital. I realized my problem with girls recently so I'm going to fix that. I don't really know where to go from here? I guess I just need some advice from you guys on how to help her but not screw myself in the process. If I have to I would rather help. And if it wasn't serious then I would just put it off as drama. I'm still careful with what I talk about with her too.

I realized this question is more about life in general but I would rather talk to you guys than others. Thanks for reading and thanks for all the info you guys put up here. It helps more people than you realize.

Disregard skinnyguy, the guy is full of ****.

In terms of this situation, I've tried to help a girl in the past and she didn't feel she needed it. It caused alot of friction and ultimately we parted ways on bad terms.

My advice is to get in touch with people close to her and try and help her through them. I'm sure she's already on suicide watch or something similar so there are people already taking care of her so to speak.

Just watch how far down the rabbit hole you go with this one...

 

[El Payaso]

Let her parents, guardians, siblings, counsellor or someone know. Then run away as far as possible. Avoid this one AT ALL COSTS. Don't kiss her, don't cuddle her, don't f*ck her. NOTHING! Run if you know what's good for you.

 

[Fugitive]

You're being a nice guy by wanting to help her out. But that's not really a good thing if you want to be successful with women.

You need to understand she has issues and those are outside of your control. Say for example she was abused in the past, then there's nothing you can do to help. She needs professional help from a counsellor. You helping her will always be an uphill struggle. It will make your life crap as you will be effected by her issues and she won't appreciate your help because she'll always be too consumed by her own problems to see beyond them.

You need to move on and find another woman.

 

[CastlesMadeOfSand]

Hahaha I've always laughed at the posts where a guy is so attached but he can't see what seems so obvious to the rest of the us. I didn't think I'd do it but I kinda did with this post. It's just weird that whenever I'm around she's happy so I view her differently than I would if she seemed depressed at school.

Thanks for all of the advice though guys and maybe I'll try posting more soon.

 

[CastlesMadeOfSand]

You're being a nice guy by wanting to help her out. But that's not really a good thing if you want to be successful with women.

Your post was at the same time as mine and I didn't see it but these sentences stand out to me. It's almost like I don't care about my sucess with her and would rather help her. But you're right it's out of my control and anything I do can effect me.