Help for a noob...

[bigbadwolff]

First off, I want to say I love this fourm. I have been a long time lurker and this is my first time post. I have found some of the information on here priceless and my success with women has skyrocketed since I started reading this forum. But here is my problem... I had been on 2 amazing dates with this HB9 and I felt as if we were connecting on every level. She was actually the first person I had been on more than 1 date with in a year. After each date we made out and that was the extent of it. She confided in me that she hadn't had that much fun on 2 dates in such a long time. Here is where it gets interesting. I left town for a business trip after our second date feeling great about her and today I finally get an email from here and here is what it says...

"I have had a lot of fun with you and appreciate the dates we went on, your time especially - thanks! The truth is I have been dating a few people and one of them has actually turned into something more than expected, at this time, I would like to pursue dating with this other person and not date anyone else. To be fair to you - I don't want to lead you on as things were starting to get good here. I appreciate our time spent and wish you luck in your next dating adventure. I was trying to make this as respectful as possible as this is what you deserve by how you have dated me and treated me. You are awesome! I hope you find that in another person who feels as strongly about you as you them."

I have asked my friends their opinions and they are split on if I should even reply back to this email. There are so many things wrong with the entire situation and I feel it shows her true character by doing this over email. But some of my other friends said I should just reply back with a simple cool and leave it at that. Others say don't even reply back as she is just looking for justification.

I guess I am struggling because how the hell can things change in 2 days or is this just an easy way out for her.. Any help from you vets would be great and taken to heart.. I am leaning towards not even replying but part of that AFC in me really liked this girl something I haven't had since my last LTR....

 

[loving]

loving how the first line of the first post comes from loving isnt it god

Anyway i will address this on your game level first, your problem is simply lack of escalation you can bed them on the first day if you are seuxal enough, no doubt her serious fling is sleeping with her and sex multiplies emotions between people for women. its differnt for them.

That is how to prevent it next time. Now, what you should do now, is forget about it completely. When the problem is solved, one of the symptoms of it will be you forgetting it, thus forget it. Bring your mind to how good life is. And follow her advice, she is a smart woman! Go find your next beautiful feelings. Also always look for the beautiful feeligns within yourself!1

 

[romangod]

I have asked my friends their opinions and they are split on if I should even reply back to this email. There are so many things wrong with the entire situation and I feel it shows her true character by doing this over email. But some of my other friends said I should just reply back with a simple cool and leave it at that. Others say don't even reply back as she is just looking for justification.

I guess I am struggling because how the hell can things change in 2 days or is this just an easy way out for her.. Any help from you vets would be great and taken to heart.. I am leaning towards not even replying but part of that AFC in me really liked this girl something I haven't had since my last LTR....

My 2 cents:



I think the girl showed a lot of class in the way she handled it. At least she didn't LJBF you. I'd E-mail her back and take the high road and plant the seed for the future with or without her then forget about her..


Bury the AFC in you and don't give it any more thought or energy. You can't win and it will serve no purpose.



Cheers!

 

[Puddly]

RomanGod gives a top shelf bit of advice that someone like me (another AFC) can only ponder in awe. Take it.