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[Kamikazi1231]

So the basics. We've been together a little over 6 months. She is in fencing, orchestra, lots of other random crap and has very little time. I don't mind her not having time during the week cause I see her on the weekend. For the next couple months she's pretty much busy most of the weekends. She is uncomfortable with public displays of affection.

Okay so those were the basics. Now the question part. Basically the way we built the relationship put all the affection in "one basket." That all the affection happened when it was just us two in my room or basement on the weekend. Now that she is busy on most weekends that "basket" no longer exists. So I need advice on what to say to her to make her understand that we need to move the affection to the at school and after school during the week "basket."

Any advice besides next her is greatly appreciated.

 

[Michele l'Arcangelo]

tell me why you need to do PDA at school to make up all the lost affection you don't have at private times... first off.. PDA is sick and i hate it... holding hands is fine... maybe a peck on the cheek or a hug...

but if i see you making out at school I'd hit you and tell you to get a room... i don't know you... but at my old school i always saw trashy people making out in the hall and almost going at it with each other.

don't look like those people...

anyways i wont assume TOO much of anything... that's just how i feel about PDA.

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okay now i'll give you advice...

she's busy... you're being a loser that's missing her while she has a life...

do something to make yourself busy.

plain and simple... DO SOMETHING TO MAKE YOURSELF BUSY... she can't get mad at you for having fun too... so find a passion and get a life (don't take that offensively).

 

[Kamikazi1231]

No by PDA I meant she won't hold my hand, hug me, or give me a kiss on the cheek once and a while. Making out should be done in the privacy of your houses I agree. That's what I meant that there is no affection at all if we aren't alone... and alone doesn't exist at all right now. So she will barely say a word to me or look me in the eye.

 

[Michele l'Arcangelo]

"take a break" (break up, pretty much)

and get her in check!

(no, seriously.)

 

[dannowillbookem]

i did that with my girl. told her i cant take it anymore a few weeks ago...you'll be surprised at how fast those fencing lessons and orchestra practices will clear aside.

 

[Kamikazi1231]

Thanks for the help lads. Didn't break it off but I made her sit down and talk about it. It's a wee bit better now and hopefully will keep going. If not I'll "take a break" from the relationship for awhile.

 

[WC2]

Please bro, ditch her and move on. You're in high school. You're going to look back on these years and regret every second you spent with your controlling girlfriend who would never have sex, much less hold your hand.