"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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It is 12:45 a.m. at the moment. I am overwhelmed with sleepiness, thus I will keep this brief.

I need to improve my grades, increase my knowledge -- to be the best that I can be.

I lack disipline. Should I play video games or shouldn't I? Should I rather focus on studying and reading -- shunning video games?

This desire to play video games is a want. So I succumb to the desire. Or DO what I MUST do?


What schedule should I follow? etc, etc.

My aspiration is to become a lawyer. That being said, I must improve my writing/reading.

- Should I drop video gaming all together replacing it with reading
- The other questions are stated above*


*Note: Take the liberty of adding your own advice.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Seeing how this is the Mature Man forum and you've ask such a mature question. I'll give you a mature answer.

Grow up.

Vids are fun but if they are f'ing with your life then you need to give your head a shake.
 

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Originally posted by Fitch
It is 12:45 a.m. at the moment. I am overwhelmed with sleepiness, thus I will keep this brief.

I need to improve my grades, increase my knowledge -- to be the best that I can be.

I lack disipline. Should I play video games or shouldn't I? Should I rather focus on studying and reading -- shunning video games?

This desire to play video games is a want. So I succumb to the desire. Or DO what I MUST do?


What schedule should I follow? etc, etc.

My aspiration is to become a lawyer. That being said, I must improve my writing/reading.

- Should I drop video gaming all together replacing it with reading
- The other questions are stated above*


*Note: Take the liberty of adding your own advice.
Dude are you sure you want to be a lawyer? Where is the motivation? You seem to like Video Games more. The hardest thing to studying is the start, once you start then you won't stop. How old are you? Yeah man I was the same way, I loved playing my PS2, going out late, hanging out with friends, chicks etc etc. But once I knew my goal, I got motivated and let those things go. Have Fun, but concentrate on your goal...BECOMING A LAWYER. Video games won't get you anywhere.
How bout this...
Set a Schedule for yourself.
Studying 2 hours
Video Games 1 hour
Back to studying etc etc.
That usually always helps, keep the schedule. Almost like a DJ BOOTCAMP.
 

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Re: Re: Help Fitch's aspirations become possible!

Originally posted by AIR-PILOT
Dude are you sure you want to be a lawyer? Where is the motivation? You seem to like Video Games more. The hardest thing to studying is the start, once you start then you won't stop. How old are you? Yeah man I was the same way, I loved playing my PS2, going out late, hanging out with friends, chicks etc etc. But once I knew my goal, I got motivated and let those things go. Have Fun, but concentrate on your goal...BECOMING A LAWYER. Video games won't get you anywhere.
How bout this...
Set a Schedule for yourself.
Studying 2 hours
Video Games 1 hour
Back to studying etc etc.
That usually always helps, keep the schedule. Almost like a DJ BOOTCAMP.
I was a bit vague I admit. I do have a schedule akin to the one you gave me. In fact, stricter. Less games, more studying. Games have been restricted to weekends; late at night -- when I finish everything planned for that day.

What is in question is whether I should drop gaming all together and do something more constructive.

BELIEVE me, I AM VERY motivated to practice law. I particpate in anything which entails debates, politics, etc.

My work ethics are in question. Not my motivation.

Slickster:
Seeing how this is the Mature Man forum and you've ask such a mature question. I'll give you a mature answer.
Can you, please, explain your reasoning behind this opinion?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I have reached my decision. When I get back from the gym I will make a thread dedicated to it.

I will include the link. Expect it around: 8-9pm
 

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if the games aren't messing with you.....keep playing them!

Fun is way too underrated :cool:
 

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I will post the thread in this sub-section of the forum: "The Mature Man."

keep your eye out.
 

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Matter of fact, I will post it here.

To keep the long story short I decided to ditch video games. There is so much more that i can do.

I will take on the challenge of Weapons of Mass Seduction.

In reference to no COMPUTER use. Expect homework, studying... along that line.

I planned to write an anology of the changes, however, I rather just get down to action.

I will incorporate this analogy into the story I am writing.
 

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At some point, you hav eto come to terms with the hidden truththat some things that you want don't have a pleasant path. That it may not feel good to do what you have to do to get there and you may not like process.

I call it a hidden truth because a lot of people don't know this. Some will even give you bad advice, like "do what you love, don't do it if you don't like it.." While there's some truth to that morally, it certainly isn't good advice.

Do you like taking the garbage out? Do you like working out? How about getting up and going to work/school?

These are all things that are good for you, but aren't fun.

I hope to save you a few years of turning around in circles, trying to be successful without the resquisite work by telling you this. Then you don't have to go through short-lived phases of "discipline" and whatnot. You'll always know that you don't like doing some things, but you'll remind yourself of the reward that they entail.


By the way, this thread is in the wrong section.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Slickster:

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Can you, please, explain your reasoning behind this opinion?.
Yeah Fitch.

Being addicted to vids is kinda childish don't ya think? Everyone loves playing them, but if its causing you problems then that's kinda silly.

If you wanna argue about whether video games are mature or not just for kids then give'r. That's not really my point but one thing is for sure. I hope you're never my lawyer.
 

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i cant believe i read this post.
i better get back to my video games and quit wasting time !
 

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Re: Re: Re: Help Fitch's aspirations become possible!

Originally posted by Fitch
I was a bit vague I admit. I do have a schedule akin to the one you gave me. In fact, stricter. Less games, more studying. Games have been restricted to weekends; late at night -- when I finish everything planned for that day.

What is in question is whether I should drop gaming all together and do something more constructive.

BELIEVE me, I AM VERY motivated to practice law. I particpate in anything which entails debates, politics, etc.

My work ethics are in question. Not my motivation.

Slickster:


Can you, please, explain your reasoning behind this opinion?
Please, READ!

I HAVE CONTROL. The issue at question is: Should I play video games, in general??

Furthermore -- as posted in a earlier response made by me -- I already made my decision. I quit gaming, forever. So far it has been 4 days.
 

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Good luck.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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