"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Help finding friends.

lincolnIV

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Hey everyone, (first post)
So I've been lacking a group of friends since the end of freshman year (i'm ending my junior year) when my best friend moved far away. I've been trying everything to find a new group of friends, I tried the stoners, the cool kids, jocks etc. I just can't seem to fit in at all. I hang out with people maybe 3 or 4 times a month outside of school/work and go on single dates with girls maybe 2 or 3 times a year. When I'm at work or school, I definitely do well with friends and girls. I can always make girls laugh, and I always seem to flatter them a little bit. I have people I talk to at work, and have hung out with them all at least once or twice, but never seem to get invited to do anything with them. I'm definitely well liked, and well known but I can never fit in with groups or get girlfriends. It's caused some severe depression, (although I never show it) it really gets to me. I just don't seem to "click" with anybody. Please please help me as this has really gotten to me. I need to fit in with a group of kids or atleast have a girlfriend or just a few close friends. I'm very very outgoing and very friendly to everyone, and I'm not ugly in any way for the record. I just don't know what I'm doing wrong. Please, any tips or advice would really help. Thanks
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Analyzeit

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Make sure you read the bible, takes ages not sure if you already have but read it.

I know what you mean social status and your friends, really does show on the girls you hang round with.

All I can really say is just keep looking until you find someone you just click with, maybe try these groups again. Give some people more of a chance

I wish you the best of luck bro
 

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For people that nobody seems to like it comes down to either they don't talk to anyone or they talk too much to people. Either they come across as anti-social or try hard.

I'm guessing you're try hard. Relax a bit and talk about other people. Makeover your look and drop little cues about hanging out with people. Only thing I can say without knowing you.
 

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I can never fit in with groups .... It's caused some severe depression, (although I never show it) it really gets to me. I just don't seem to "click" with anybody. Please please help me as this has really gotten to me.


I can guarantee you that there are a lot of girls you know who feel the same way about themselves. They are going to be your best candidates for girlfriends. Some people, both male and female, are just loners. There's nothing wrong with that. You are probably smarter than the people you are trying to make friends with, which is why there is not much of a connection. Find a female loner and go fvck like rabbits, and then you will not be so worried about having a lot of friends.
 
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