"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Help: Dating multiple women

the_m@n

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I've always been a one woman at a time kind of guy but recently I decided that I want to date many women at a time. I was in and out of relationships for a while and the way I see it, I was wasting a lot of my time and not really seeing what was out there.

At the present moment, I'm dating 2 women and setting up more dates with 2 others.

One of the women I've gone on multiple dates with and she slept over last night. As much as I enjoyed having her company and think she's a cool chick, I'm not sure how I feel about dating her exclusively yet.

I'm looking for some advice on how to handle this situation. The cool chick is also a very kind person and I wouldn't feel right about hurting her feelings but I also want to be selfish and keep her around.

How does one go about maintaining a casual relationship with sex while dating other women and have them all be ok with it? Simple or long answers would both help.

Thanks.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Scaramouche

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Dear m@n,
Affairs if left to progress with their own dynamic tend to resolve themselves!
 

the_m@n

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Thanks for putting that into perspective. You're right, the situation is resolving itself.
 
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