HELP! Confusing chick!!

[scorpion666]

Hey i need some advice!

I recently met this chick off myspace, we started talking and hit it off well that we decided to meet. Prior to meeting she was texting me and flirting with me. When we met everything went really well, she flirted heaps with me and as soon as i got home she texted me saying how it was good to meet me and how she had a good time an said i was gorgeous. So we met up again two days later and i told her how i really liked her and she said she liked me too. Again we had a good time and again that night she told me that i made her day and she "hopes this goes somewhere". So i didnt hear from her that weekend. I messaged her on monday an asked if she was serious serious about liking me. She said she liked me but wasnt ready for a relationship but will be in the future but she still really likes me.......yet she still contacts me and flirts still....Is this chick playing me or did i do something wrong?? i dont understand what her game is????

 

[Special T]

Just take it slow. Is she worthy of a relationship? Why do you care if she likes you? I'm guessing she's the only girl on your plate at the moment.

 

[scorpion666]

i really like her and we get on so well. I know she hasnt been in many relationships and she is abit shy......i just done understand why she was all into me and now she says she isnt ready for a relationship but will be in the future? i dont know if thats a cop out or she really ment it. should i just back off and wait 4 her?

 

[BongDuy]

call me out on this if im wrong, but it sounds like she was really into the "Chase", or flirting with you and being unsure if you two are interested in each other. When you confessed that you liked her, im sure at first she was excited, but maybe she was just in it for the thrill of the chase.

Anyone agree?

 

[Igetit!]

.i just done understand why she was all into me and now she says she isnt ready for a relationship but will be in the future?

Well,you made TWO mistakes...


1)You messed up when you told her that you liked her.

and

2)You messed up when you messaged her and asked her if she was serious about liking you.


Women like a challenge. When you told her you liked her,you took the challenge away.


Her behavior changed,right? She was telling you she liked you,giving you compliments,contacting you AFTER THE DATES to tell you what a good time she had.



Then when you told her you liked her,that's when things started to change.



You telling her you liked her caused ONE dip in attraction. Then when you messaged her asking her if she seriously liked you,you came off as being insecure.




Women don't want a man they have to constantly tell over and over again and reassure that they like them.


They want men who are confident in themselves.


She'd be more attracted to you if you just ASSUMED SHE LIKED YOU instead of contacting her and asking her if she liked you.




These two things seemed to have made her interest in you take a hit.



I know this to be true. You know why?


Because before you did these things,she told you she was hoping that "this" (meaning you and her) goes somewhere.


Then after you made those two errors,now ALL OF THE SUDDEN she's not ready for a relationship.



That was a mighty quick change,don't you think?



Even though you did these things,all MAY NOT BE lost just yet.



If she's still contacting you it's because at the beginning,she felt attraction for you,so she knows THERE'S ATTRACTION THERE with you.


She knows there's attraction there,she just can't feel it AT THE MOMENT because of the two mistakes you made.


So she keeps contacting you HOPING to feel attracted to you again.


She'll do this for a little while. Then if the attraction doesn't return,she'll pull out the friends card,then move on to a guy she does like.



THIS IS FIXABLE. You CAN repair this.


If she's still contacting you,then there's still time.



For one,DON'T TELL HER YOU LIKE HER ANYMORE.


Also,STOP ASKING HER IF SHE LIKES YOU OR NOT.


All the compliments,contacting you after dates,GOING ON THE DATES,telling you she likes you and hopes things go somewhere,she did ALL THAT...and you couldn't figure out she liked you?

You actually had to call her up to ask her?



Come on man.



Look,WHATEVER YOU DID with her before you two started going out and having dates...GO BACK TO THAT.



Stand up and be a MAN.


Stop going to her and being like,"Umm...umm...I hate to bother you,b-b-but could you please tell me you like me some more? Please?".



You're a MAN.

YOU'RE a KING.



Start acting like one.

Edit:Bingo BongDuy.

 

[scorpion666]

when i asked her if she was serious about liking me, i only asked her again because she hadn't contacted me in 3 days....so i didnt know if she was getting cold feet...