"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Help: Avoding the relationship with her

Focused24

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I meet this girl at a club a couple months ago, she came over we talked hit it off etc... I told her I was not looking for a relationship but I also said i wasn't talking to anyone else (both are true).

The only time we see each other is when she comes over here and chills with me, but we do text almost everyday. I hit the second night she came over, but I guess she kind of figued out that I really was not looking to get into a relationship so she stopped coming over for a while...

I told her how it would be and she knew that but while she wasnt coming over we still talked I was trying to get her to come back over she started to hint that she wants a relationship... Mentioning things like why dont you take me out places, what are we, etc..

I kind of avoided the whole topic and she came back over but the questions are coming up again and I'm just trying to figure out how to get this young lady to continue to come over without actually getting into a relationship

Tips please, thanks
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Michele l'Arcangelo

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lol. man i have my older bros ex-ex-ex girlfriend asking me what she should do about a guy like you (not saying it in a bad way)

same exact situation! i told her to stop going to the guys house and to stop hanging out at any place where anyone sleeps.

i think the only difference was she didn't meet the guy at a club.

but anyways

weird for me to give the other side advice now... kinda like tug-o-war advice.

you can't do much other then tell her straight up you don't want to be in a relationship... with ANYONE, as you already are. this girl is obviously needy and definitely WILL be clingy.

pull the friendzone card out on her next time she asks such a desperate question like "what are we?"...do it subtly, not by saying "lets just be friends".

when she asks why don't you take her out to places, tell her you reserve that right for a girl who earns it.

if you choose to string her along for company out in public, use phrases like "we're friends, but if you play your cards right.........." or "i reserve the right of taking girls out when they earn it, you're going to have to try andimpress me more."

and to string her along to avoid the annoying nagging questions, add on "... a girl that asks these types of questions aren't appealing to me... wheres the mystery?!" with a joking tone... but subtly hinting at the truth.
 

KontrollerX

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When she asks the question what are we answer "We're two people/adults having fun".

Use either the word "people" or the word "adults" whichever sounds better.

Don't tell the chick she is a friend to you or she will likely pull the b!tch move of not giving you any pvssy at which point you will have to next her.
 

vonbock

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I know one thing not to try. I try to use a girl as a douchebag. Talk about how life sucks, etc, etc. Did not talk about any relationship. MAde the girls want me even more until they realized they were waiting too long and they left me.
 
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