"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Help ASAP! DJ Decline & Coffee Date

j8snx1

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I feel like my DJ stuff is slipping away, even though I refresh myself and read the material, along with a few practices along the way.

I plan to call this girl out either today or next week (it's winter break right now yayyyyy) and I'm definitely going to aim for coffee date on this girl. I'm still not sure of her IL for me. Planning it won't be much of a problem, except I'm not sure of her whereabouts and where's a convenient coffee shop. It seems a little difficult, but it's not impossible! Conversation shouldn't be much of a problem either, since open-ended questions is one of my favorite things to do :woo: :woo: :woo: ! But initially I wanted to take her to play pool, but I figured..."I dunno her IL for me too well, so why not feel her out." Am I making a wise move here?

As for my slump, I haven't been able to unleash my inner DJ for the first encounters with new women. Either I don't say anything, or I forget my DJ training and not apply some C&F. GAHHH! Please don't flame me for this, and I'm still learning. I usually tend to use the casual convo method, just to bring down the anti-guy shield, so how do I fit the C&F in during the convo? I feel like I'm losing touch with my inner funny.

ex:
W: "I like to watch Bambi."
M: "Hahaha aww...poor you. Studies show that Bambi fans tend to become over-emotional, and kidnap and murder children!"
M: "Don't come near me! *grin*"

I just thought that one up off the bat :D
I could use ur feedback for both the coffee thing and my weird slump. thanks
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Damian

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This is a self image problem, not a DJ conflict. Start thinking more positively. Review your DJ material and be confident, you'll do fine.

-Damian
 

JH6

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yeah, coffee date is usually not the best idea for girls you really want to get with.

I'd try an action date first, something stupid like mini golf, etc.

This way you can kind of hang out and feel eachother out, and she will be happy from the activity, and will have to rely less on your conversation.

I'd say that coffee is a good #2 date.
 

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bro.. who cares about her interest level... you think about yourself and your moves.. not hers... thats your problem... your the catch here, not her
 

JH6

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Originally posted by steroidsrule
bro.. who cares about her interest level... you think about yourself and your moves.. not hers... thats your problem... your the catch here, not her
Yeah so put me on a date with Carmen Electra, if her interest level is zero I can make all the moves I want and it won't matter for diddly squat. Yes you are the catch but she needs to have some sort of an interest level in you.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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