"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Help ASAP! DJ Decline & Coffee Date

j8snx1

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I feel like my DJ stuff is slipping away, even though I refresh myself and read the material, along with a few practices along the way.

I plan to call this girl out either today or next week (it's winter break right now yayyyyy) and I'm definitely going to aim for coffee date on this girl. I'm still not sure of her IL for me. Planning it won't be much of a problem, except I'm not sure of her whereabouts and where's a convenient coffee shop. It seems a little difficult, but it's not impossible! Conversation shouldn't be much of a problem either, since open-ended questions is one of my favorite things to do :woo: :woo: :woo: ! But initially I wanted to take her to play pool, but I figured..."I dunno her IL for me too well, so why not feel her out." Am I making a wise move here?

As for my slump, I haven't been able to unleash my inner DJ for the first encounters with new women. Either I don't say anything, or I forget my DJ training and not apply some C&F. GAHHH! Please don't flame me for this, and I'm still learning. I usually tend to use the casual convo method, just to bring down the anti-guy shield, so how do I fit the C&F in during the convo? I feel like I'm losing touch with my inner funny.

ex:
W: "I like to watch Bambi."
M: "Hahaha aww...poor you. Studies show that Bambi fans tend to become over-emotional, and kidnap and murder children!"
M: "Don't come near me! *grin*"

I just thought that one up off the bat :D
I could use ur feedback for both the coffee thing and my weird slump. thanks
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Damian

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This is a self image problem, not a DJ conflict. Start thinking more positively. Review your DJ material and be confident, you'll do fine.

-Damian
 

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yeah, coffee date is usually not the best idea for girls you really want to get with.

I'd try an action date first, something stupid like mini golf, etc.

This way you can kind of hang out and feel eachother out, and she will be happy from the activity, and will have to rely less on your conversation.

I'd say that coffee is a good #2 date.
 

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bro.. who cares about her interest level... you think about yourself and your moves.. not hers... thats your problem... your the catch here, not her
 

JH6

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Originally posted by steroidsrule
bro.. who cares about her interest level... you think about yourself and your moves.. not hers... thats your problem... your the catch here, not her
Yeah so put me on a date with Carmen Electra, if her interest level is zero I can make all the moves I want and it won't matter for diddly squat. Yes you are the catch but she needs to have some sort of an interest level in you.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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