Help: Am I Going Too Fast???

[whowy04]

Fellow DJs,

Well, after this post, you guys probably won't consider me to be a fellow DJ, but its cool.

I recently ran into a girl that graduated 2 years ahead of me (1997) from the same high school --- ironic, yes. We hit it off at the bar where I meant her and she actually persisted to ask me out on a date (she was there for a few hours before me). I was alll about it; I said sure let me get your number.

The next week, I took her downtown (Baltimore) and had dinner on the water. The date went great and the next few times we saw ea. other, everyti`ng seemed to click.

Now, we've been dating for about a month and we both seem very much into it. We see each other a couple times during the week and talking pretty much everyday whether it be via txt messaging or a phone call.

IF we're both feeling each other, click very well, and everything seems to be insync, are we going too fast???

 

[check_mate_kid_uk]

no way, sounds good, the only problem could be that you may run out of things to do or say, os make sure you do intresitng things with her quite a bit, rather then just hang out in the same place the whole time. About how you 2 are feeling aoubt each other, i would sya feelings can never move to fast, as you are only going to fele liek that when you are ready, you can not be rushed so easily. its only the physical side of a realationship that is easily rushed and can go to far, but hey a month is quite a long time im only 16 so im still a virgin but you can go all they way, just make sure its a smove transition, do not go fomr kissing to sex, if you have never odne more htne making out, as long as you go 1 step at a time it shouldnt matter how long you wait between each step, waiting to long can be bad.

how does it feel getitng advie from a 16 year old?

hope ive been a help

 

[whowy04]

Originally posted by check_mate_kid_uk
no way, sounds good, the only problem could be that you may run out of things to do or say, os make sure you do intresitng things with her quite a bit, rather then just hang out in the same place the whole time. About how you 2 are feeling aoubt each other, i would sya feelings can never move to fast, as you are only going to fele liek that when you are ready, you can not be rushed so easily. its only the physical side of a realationship that is easily rushed and can go to far, but hey a month is quite a long time im only 16 so im still a virgin but you can go all they way, just make sure its a smove transition, do not go fomr kissing to sex, if you have never odne more htne making out, as long as you go 1 step at a time it shouldnt matter how long you wait between each step, waiting to long can be bad.

how does it feel getitng advie from a 16 year old?

hope ive been a help

Nah, any advice is welcome in my head. Yeah, i definately agree on the doing different things rather than the same. That's something I'll have to focus more on, espec. when Winter comes around, but I'm sure by then if all goes well, she'll be puddy in my hands.

 

[NRM]

Well, if you are truly interested in this lady, there are a few things you need to cut back on.

First off, you are way too available for her. A few times a week? Jeez, that just screams either extreme devotion or complete boredom. Same for phone calls. She has your number, you need to quit calling her if you do. Save the conversations for date time.

As for date times, I say once a week is good. Especially if you aren't exclusive with the girl. You're only dating, not married. The goal is to have other things to do besides her. It keeps you interesting and it keeps her wanting you. Just the way a relationship should be.

As for things going too fast because you two are feeling compatible with eachother... no. But you do want to maintain a guard on a girl you've only known for a month. That isn't much time at all put into a perspective.

Also, I have a question for you. Have you kissed her yet? The kiss you should have planted in the first date. I'm just asking because if you haven't, then you'd be dwindling into the friends zone and you'll just end up being the guygirl that she calls when she wants to talk to someone and wants dinner.

Just don't get your hopes up. Keep her interest above yours. I doubt she is going to internet forums asking for advice like this, so it seems that you might a little in over your head about her. But good luck with whatever you want to accomplish.

 

[whowy04]

GREAT ADVICE

Originally posted by NRM
Well, if you are truly interested in this lady, there are a few things you need to cut back on.

First off, you are way too available for her. A few times a week? Jeez, that just screams either extreme devotion or complete boredom. Same for phone calls. She has your number, you need to quit calling her if you do. Save the conversations for date time.

As for date times, I say once a week is good. Especially if you aren't exclusive with the girl. You're only dating, not married. The goal is to have other things to do besides her. It keeps you interesting and it keeps her wanting you. Just the way a relationship should be.

As for things going too fast because you two are feeling compatible with eachother... no. But you do want to maintain a guard on a girl you've only known for a month. That isn't much time at all put into a perspective.

Also, I have a question for you. Have you kissed her yet? The kiss you should have planted in the first date. I'm just asking because if you haven't, then you'd be dwindling into the friends zone and you'll just end up being the guygirl that she calls when she wants to talk to someone and wants dinner.

Just don't get your hopes up. Keep her interest above yours. I doubt she is going to internet forums asking for advice like this, so it seems that you might a little in over your head about her. But good luck with whatever you want to accomplish.

First of all, GREAT ADVICE. Most of it does apply, but not all. We are dating exclusively which we confirmed last night. I do agree on the phone calls; I try not to call her at all. It's kind of hard on not seeing her multiple times/week. I've told her that I don't want to take things too fast or smother her, but she replied, no that's what I want, I want to see you. I think I need to realize that I still must listen to myself and take things slow. I don't know of the repercussions if we do go fast; it could be good or bad. The truth is, I don't do much during the week b/c I work. I chill with friends if anything. She lives literally 10 minutes away and i never really have a good excuse on what i'm doing or should be doing instead of seeing her so she quickly assumes (i think) the we should be spending that time together. Note: She's 25 and I'm 23, not sure if the age matters or not. Should I definately always have something to do whether i'm doing it or not as to not hang out with her too much?

I have kissed her. We've actually had some pretty long and intense make out sessions. NOt to brag, but she literally crumbles in my arms when I kiss her. According to her, I'm a great kisser. So, to say no more, we fvcked the other night and it was absolutely amazing. We took it slow and it was one hell of an exp. for both of us. You know one of those sweaty ass sessions! So, who knows... I think we are taking it a bit fast, considering I'm even on this site for that reason. I just don't want her to get the wrong idea if I start doing more things and not seeing her. I feel that she thinks i"m blowing her off then. Well, thanks for the advice again.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Your stressing over NOTHING!!! Everything's going great. Just keep doing what your doing and you'll be fine. Just remember not to get too attached and suddenly turn AFC on her @ss without realizing it until its too late.


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