"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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sprint

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OK to make a long story short... I have been tutoring this chick (she pays me with her parents money) for about a year now. She just broke up with her bf a couple weeks ago and i've always had this thing for her. I wouldn't consider myself a "friend" since I tutor her, but ever since she broke up with her bf she has noticeably opened up to me. As of right now, I've never really made a move (due to the bf obviously) but have just done the light flirting and stuff. she never responded negatively (when she had a bf) and now it seems she's reciprocating more.

anyway, I was wondering if any of you guys had any advice on how I can change the nature of my relationship with her. again, right now I am most likely considered the "tutor/ kinda friend (since we do talk about other stuff)" but I need to get out of that role and into another so as to have a better shot at going out with her. I just need some advice on how to accomplish this. For exampls, should I try and change the relationship before asking her out somewhere or should I just go for it the way things are now?

By the way, my only concern at this time is the fact that if I don't change the relationship and things go south/get awkward (being the tutor and all) then I will lose her business (which I need right now). thanks...
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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MisterMcGee

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I'd pass. Use this as an ego/confidence boost if you must haha but I wouldn't pursue her if I TRULY NEEDED the cash flow.
If I could do without the job, though, I'd do her.
 

Pakwah

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uh...ask her out somewhere and see what she says...maybe not so much dinner and a movie, but ya know, maybe say you have shoppin to do at the mall...if she would like to come along, or join you in a drive cuz u could use the company, something non threating, and build from there.
 

Romjuan

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ive been in similar situations before. This WILL work if she really is interested in you. next time your tutoring her (preferably on a thurs or fri) tell her that one of your friends is having a house party and its going to be really fun. "it would be a perfect way for you to get over your ex bf." tell her she should come. if she says yes that sounds good kinda thing, hopefully you know of a house party. if not, wait for day of and when she asks for directions or calls you before the party, say oh it got canceled so we decided were going to xxx(bar, bowling, whatever both of you would like in a group setting). when your out with her and shes drinkin then you can flirt with her and you will get positive results.

my situation was similar with a personal trainer at the gym. it was a chick and we never flirted or anything similar to that. she was single too never even had a bf. it was a random friday when i saw her and i asked what were her plans for the nite. she said bar hopping. i said well my friends are having a party and she should come. its going to be really fun. she got my number. later that nite she called and showed up. needless to say we hookd up that nite.
 
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