HELP! - A sticky virgin situation!

[F!DELITY]

Hey guys,

I want to hear your advice on this situation. Theres a chick in my uni class who gives me a lot of attention. I suspect she may be an attention
wh0re..BUT, she is very flirtacious with me and talks a lot of innuendo about bedding me etc.

Now, I palm most of it off as her being a tease, and I just view the whole thing as a joke, and dont really rise to it or take it seriously (in fear of looking a fool). But MY GOD how I would love to fvck the cr@p outta this chick...shes got it in all the right places.

A little info - Im 24yr old virgin. She is 19 and definitely not a virgin. This kind of intimidates me, and I think it shows. I dont want to be weak around her...I want to take charge and up the stakes but i really dont know how.

She is having a house party in a couple weeks and she invited me and a couple other ppl I know...and technically I could use it to try and get with her...but it seems that if I did get with her, because I am a virgin it will be a complete car crash!!??!?!

I am not a complete nerd or anything. I have read the bible. I have been on this forum for a while. I have made out with girls....fingered a chick. For some reason it has just never happened for me...which really gets to me sometimes.

I feel I need to lose it asap....and for a while now I have been toying with the idea of hookers/escorts etc.
I dont really want to do it because it feels like the cowards way out..ARGH!

any opinions/suggestions welcome

Thanks in advance

 

[DJDanny]

She is having a house party in a couple weeks and she invited me and a couple other ppl I know...and technically I could use it to try and get with her...but it seems that if I did get with her, because I am a virgin it will be a complete car crash!!??!?!

Yes your first time is likely to be quite awkward, are you going to put it off forever just because it might be a car crash or are you going to get the car crash out of the way so you can keep on motoring?

 

[K.Pez]

So the only thing keeping you from having sex is that you are afraid you will be bad in bed and the sex will be awkward? Get really into it and eventually you will forget that you are nervous and you won't feel awkward. Kind've like an athlete who is about to play in the biggest game of his life. They are very nervous before but once the game starts they forget about how nervous they are and they get on with it.

Top athletes don't over think what they are doing on the field while the game is going and the top performers in the bed don't over think what they're doing in the bed while they're having sex. Basically, do not try to analyze sex during sex.

Why not try to have sex with this girl? You said that you want to. As long as she's STD free there should be no problem. I say go for it.

 

[F!DELITY]

So the only thing keeping you from having sex is that you are afraid you will be bad in bed and the sex will be awkward? Get really into it and eventually you will forget that you are nervous and you won't feel awkward. Kind've like an athlete who is about to play in the biggest game of his life. They are very nervous before but once the game starts they forget about how nervous they are and they get on with it.

Top athletes don't over think what they are doing on the field while the game is going and the top performers in the bed don't over think what they're doing in the bed while they're having sex. Basically, do not try to analyze sex during sex.

Why not try to have sex with this girl? You said that you want to. As long as she's STD free there should be no problem. I say go for it.

Thanks for the advice K.Pez.

Of course, I want to and probably should go all out for this chick...But there is no denying I have anxieties. I think I need to maintain and DHV, and beleive I am the prize etc. and that she should consider herself lucky to be with me..... it still sucks though!

 

[moneyisking]

Damn, you're a virgin, but you still have chicks trying deliberately to have sex with you? You must be really hot (no homo) dude or plain good at game. Well, either way, congratulations, a man with option is always hot in women's eyes. But still, by all means please do bang her. I mean I am 20yr old virgin although I am trying to improve everyday with dating and life, do it for me for god sake.

 

[Cinamon]

You know how guys fantasize about doing virgin girls, well its not actually that different for some of us girls either. Regardless of how good or bad you may be in bed, the first time is unforgetable, and its somewhat of an ego boost to think back and think a number of guys (or gals) wont forget the time you did it. I'd say, go for it, you got nothing to lose, and if she knows you are a virgin, she wont be expecting a spectacular display, but will be more interested in guiding you.

Alternatively, if you are that anxious about it, go for a dominant woman, who will be in the drivers seat so to speak, and in that kind of situation no matter how inexperienced you maybe, its her who will be guiding you. Good Luck.

 

[scrouds]

MAN UP

GRAB YOUR BALLS

Invite her back to your place. Make sure roommie isn't there.

 

[F!DELITY]

Thanks for the replies Cinamon and scrouds.

Dont get me wrong, if this was a girl who i had no social ties to whatsover, I would be all over it. BUT, because the stakes are higher if I dont perform, it makes me really nervous and uncomfortable. The thought of people gossiping and laughing about my intimate behaviour is so embarrassing etc..

Maybe I should just place that thought out of mind..and just focus on fvcking the crap outta her.

My worse fear is not getting erection....It kinda happened to me before in a situation where I could have had sex with the girl....when it came time to put the rubber on I lost it...but I blame that on the setting...it was not appealing at all, cold on a lounge floor with a girl I didn't really like that much..

Maybe that psychologically is what is holding me back..who knows! :nervous: