"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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HELP A.S.A.P. please!!!

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this is my situation

im a year older than the chick i like in my school...i've known her for a few months and we talk on the fone/hang out/ talk in school etc. often. She is gorgeous. Right now she has a boyfriend who she told many otheres she is going 2 dump..(he is her age). Me and her definately have some chemistry and my friends and her friends often ask her if she is interested in me. The answer they always get is "I dont really want a boyfriend now but i love nick(my name) i'll give it some thought" She says im so sweet constantly 2 everyone(which can be good and bad i kno). Over the phone we planned a picnic (haha funnny i kno) its guna be at sunset on a hill and then we are guna watch the stars. The problem is its starting to seem like we are becoming 2 good of friends. She occasionally calls me "buddy" its kinda weird. We joke alot, she thinks im the funniest person ever, we are both athletes (me football her soccer) so we have that in common. She tells everyone that im so sweet and that she has to put thought into it. It seems ok but she doesnt seem extremely eager. I don't wanna become 2 good of friends" which is happening i think" I really like this girl and she knows it and so do all of her friends and mine...Everyone is on my side and everyone i know is trying 2 help me out.... my question is...Once she dumps her current boyfriend should I....

1.Go right in for the kill and ask her out

2.Wait for a while( if so how long)...im worried she may go if i do this shes gorgeous

3. Move on (if so why)

4. Quit cuz i have no chance (if so why)

5. Other(explain what i should do if none of theses seem rite)

thank you ahead of time...wen u choose please explain as thouroughly as u can
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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If you know that's she's interested, then you need to ask her out ASAP. Girls don't sit around wating, just like you shouldn't.

If she doesn't really know what she wants. Than you need to pursue other girls since you are a DJ and you don't have time to wait while she makes up her mind. Believe me, it would work best in the long run this way.
 
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Use Kino. If u dont know what Kino is look it up!. Make her want you! DO NOT, DOO NOOTT ask her out right away after the break up! She will be expecting you to do so and if you dont it will confuse her and make her go nuts for you. BUT REMEMBER to do this right u must show your sexual interest! Just keep her interest up by Seeming like u want to marry her one minute and just be friends the next. After a while of this then u can ask her out if u want.
 

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thanks so far.....i need as many opinions as i can get though so keep em coming
 

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so what that she has a b/f now. dont be a normal high school afc loser. ask her out regardless. dont be such a pvssy bout everything.
if she shows interest, pursue ->

she may drop this b/f of hers for you, never know till ya try

dont read too much into stuff eiterh
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Originally posted by nyy2004champs

2.Wait for a while( if so how long)...im worried she may go if i do this shes gorgeous
4. Quit cuz i have no chance (if so why)
One of the posts I remember reading was the 10 commandments and if I remember correctly the first one was "Do not worship good looks" option 2 is exactly that. If you're going to think like this you'd better do 4 because "Im worried she's so beautiful" is loser mentality. There are better looking, more intellegent, more sexy, richer and every other thing you want girls than her that want you. AHe is no differant from any other girl. Yes she may be better looking or whatever but she is still a girl, someone who needs a DJ.

If you're gonna stop worrieing bout her good looks then go for the kill and ask her out. You have nothing to lose.
 

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Originally posted by Dukester
so what that she has a b/f now. dont be a normal high school afc loser. ask her out regardless. dont be such a pvssy bout everything.
if she shows interest, pursue ->

she may drop this b/f of hers for you, never know till ya try

dont read too much into stuff eiterh
I agree here.
 
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