"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Help a noob out- What's my next move?

RickHunt

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Girl initially showed interest. We hit it off pretty well in the beginning and i thought everything was going smooth. Asked her a few times to come out with me (date) but she'd always make excuses. Didn't contact her for a few weeks. Spoke to her on webcam during which she said I had become more attractive. I then got a phone call and she asked me if it was my 'new girl'. I told her it was. She asked me if she should leave me to it. I said 'up to you'. She said 'fine then'. I've tried to increase interest level. What's my next step? Should i ring her or let her be the first to contact?

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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TheGambino

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Go along with your new girl and forget the girl that wasn't really interested. You got more attractive to her cuz she found out you have a girl, and that you might lost interest in her. So she tries to string you along again. Your best bet is to focus on the other girl, if she contacts you, give a bit back and let her make dating up, if she doesn't keep it fun and short and tell her your busy and hang up, just like you don't care if she wants to date or not, be indifferent like you would be if you got 8 other options. (Don't be a d1ck, or rude or anything like that, just be fun and talk like you don't care what the outcome is)

Listen up: Calling her, giving her attention won't do it, im serious, im talking out of experience, let her chase you, its the only way. If you bump intoo her in a couple of weeks in real life, make a fun small chit chat and lead the convo to a possible date but let her mention it!

If you let her know your interested in her more then your current chick she will bail on you coz her knowing that you want her is enough for her ego and she will forget you again...

Chicks want what they can't have, give that to em, works best. Believe me.
 

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RickHunt said:
Girl initially showed interest. We hit it off pretty well in the beginning and i thought everything was going smooth. Asked her a few times to come out with me (date) but she'd always make excuses. Didn't contact her for a few weeks. Spoke to her on webcam during which she said I had become more attractive. I then got a phone call and she asked me if it was my 'new girl'. I told her it was. She asked me if she should leave me to it. I said 'up to you'. She said 'fine then'. I've tried to increase interest level. What's my next step? Should i ring her or let her be the first to contact?

Thanks
Give her a nice hearty "Batman," laugh http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_kuvckhEAHg1qzgcpyo1_500.jpg and say, http://runjumpfire.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/07/you-chose-poorly.jpg
 

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When in doubt, always, always go for the girl that shows you clear interest in the present moment. Nothing happened before because of disinterest, and what hasn't happened is fantasy. Go for the now.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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