HELP, a girl at work!

[Aurace]

There is this girl I like at work that I would like to more than just friends with. I talk to her as much as I can, which isn’t a lot because I’m a cashier and it’s hard to keep a conversation alive. I’m not a socialistic person by any means. I find it hard to keep a conversation going, especially with a girl. Yes, it’s easier for me to talk to someone I really like; but I still have a hard time with it.

I have been working at my current job for 8 months now and they just hired this new girl. She has been working here for about 3 weeks now. She works a lot of morning shifts and I am usually getting on when she is leaving. I have gotten a couple of shifts with her but that doesn’t necessarily mean I can talk to her, if at all. It’s hard to know if I get a break with her, and even if I did I would be uncomfortable talking to her on break around other people I work with. Yes I know, if I like the girl enough I should have no problem making conversation.

Today, I got my chance to get to know her a little. I asked her questions like; how do you like working here, what college do you go to, what did you do for thanksgiving, etc.. I just really don’t know what to talk to her about, and not look stupid doing it.

Thing is she’s extremely cute and I think I have a chance with her, I just can’t tell yet. When I talk to her she seems interested in what we talk about, I think.. She told me she likes to talk a lot, and I thought that was great. I don’t think it’s going to be a problem for her to keep a conversation, but for me..lets just say I’m a failure when trying to keep a conversation.
Please give me your ideas

 

[Julian]

Dont get involved with a girl at work if its the type of place where people like to gossip, that is if you plan on keeping this job for a while.

 

[DonJuanQuixote]

Don't fvck in the workplace.

 

[learningtopimp]

Don't **** where you sleep my friend. Lots of people have learned this the hard way, hopefully you won't have to. There are plenty of other women out there.

 

[christz]

Originally posted by Julian
Dont get involved with a girl at work if its the type of place where people like to gossip, that is if you plan on keeping this job for a while.

oh god is this the truth, in fact i LOST my job due to this..

 

[Helter Skelter]

Originally posted by Julian
Dont get involved with a girl at work

Do NOT Listen to this advice.
Your a fuucking cashier for christs sake. GOD FORBID YOU SHOULD LOSE THIS JOB BECAUSE OF IT...... WHAT WOULD YOU DO??????
AAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHH
IT COULD BE THE END OF THE WORLD.

Almost all the coolest girls I've dated in my life I met at work.
It's a great place to meet normal people and get to know them.
Many people who may always be shy, might not get that many chances. Take all the ones you can get.

Dating at work is only a potential problem if you have a serious career position and even then many times it can be okay.

Unless you want to be lonely your whole life don't listen to these lightweights. Go for it.

 

[Helter Skelter]

Originally posted by Aurace
She told me she likes to talk a lot, and I thought that was great. I don’t think it’s going to be a problem for her to keep a conversation, but for me..lets just say I’m a failure when trying to keep a conversation.
Please give me your ideas

Since she likes to talk a lot, why not try to turn the conversation towards something YOU are more interested in or talkative about.

At some point your going to know if you two have any kind of chemistry or not.

I know girls I can talk to for hours and other ones were the conversation dies after a couple minutes.

Practice conversation with all your friends and even family members. You'll get better with practice.
Also, if you don't have any, try to have some hobbies or interests that really excite you and you'll be amazed how much you have to say to people..

 

[Aurace]

This all happened on Saturday.

I didn’t really know how forward to be. Two days later we closed together and 5 hours before I got off work I asked her if she would like to get some ice cream. She said “I guess I can do that” and she gave me her number. When we were told we could leave, she and I talked as we went to the back to put our stuff up. When the conversation died down she asked if she could have a rain check this time. I said ok and she said that she had to work at 9am the next morning, and I added that I worked at 8am. I kinda got the idea that she needed sleep more than going out for ice cream. I just wanted to spend some time and get to know her come on! Thirty minutes later I called and asked her if she would maybe be interested in going to a movie tomorrow or something. I offered to take her there since I got off work before her. She said, that I have a test on Monday and that I also have to work on Monday and I was planning to study during that time or else I would go. I told her that I guess ill just talk to you tomorrow. After saying that I could here her on the other line and I got the feeling from hearing her that she knew I was upset. From the way I said that ill just talk to you tomorrow, I felt that she knew that I upset because I thought she didn’t like me. I have no idea if she does or not, but my friend told me on break today that he was on the register next to her earlier. He told me that she told him that I liked her and she was acting kinda cheery. I don’t know, you guys tell me what you think all this.

 

[Kaine]

Sweet jeebus, you sound like you absolutely have no frikkin clue whatsoever!

You did well by approaching her great! From the rest of the story however I expect her IL to begin it's gradual plummet into the fiery depths of hell.

You need to go read the DJ Bible immediately! Do you expect to be babied all the way through this?

 

[huge_guy_pimpin]

Originally posted by Julian
Dont get involved with a girl at work if its the type of place where people like to gossip, that is if you plan on keeping this job for a while.

isnt that about every workplace???

 

[Aurace]

Do you expect to be babied all the way through this?
LOL i just wanted some advice. im still doing my own thing.

 

[Walden]

Read the bible a55hole.

 

[Paradox]

Well. I think that there is plenty for you to think about Aurace. If you haven't gone thru the DJ Bible I suggest that you do so.

Thread closed.


P.S. Walden, I know it's frustrating but let's not call the Newbs a$$holes. LOL

 

[Eternal]

Careful Paradox, they might start complaining about YOU closing posts now.

 

[Vincent]

Originally posted by Eternal
Careful Paradox, they might start complaining about YOU closing posts now.

Yea, it seems to be all the rage now adays