"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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It is 12:45 a.m. at the moment. I am overwhelmed with sleepiness, thus I will keep this brief.

I need to improve my grades, increase my knowledge -- to be the best that I can be.

I lack disipline. Should I play video games or shouldn't I? Should I rather focus on studying and reading -- shunning video games?

This desire to play video games is a want. So I succumb to the desire. Or DO what I MUST do?


What schedule should I follow? etc, etc.

My aspiration is to become a lawyer. That being said, I must improve my writing/reading.

- Should I drop video gaming all together replacing it with reading
- The other questions are stated above*


*Note: Take the liberty of adding your own advice.

P.S. I am sincerly hoping that you can help me conquer my dilemma, enabling me to have a good night's rest; with this heavy burden off my chest.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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what you just said is so similar to mine except i want to become a medical doctor

anyways do what u like to do, but something like video games taht we both enjoy should be cut back a bit

motivate urself and look ahead

in the end most of us regret not doing something such as working harder until it is too late to fix that (probably being lazy as a freshman and regretting that laziness at senior year)

well thats it for what i have to say
 
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You foolish bastard, I have the solution - become a lawyer in the video game industry!!!:rolleyes:
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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This is an issue I've been dealing with myself.

The problem with me is not a lack of discipline per se, but more the fact that I have so many interests and things I want to do that I can't focus hard on one or two things...like I feel that I'm missing out on other great things in life. So as a result, I don't get far in one or two disciplines but have proficiency in many (jack of all trades, master of none).

When I figure out the answer, I'll let you know. My hunch is it's all about prioritizing and making sacrifices. You might have to let go of the video games, or cut them back significantly.

The question you have to ask yourself is: When I get something, what do I have to lose? And we need to be content with the answer we discover.
 

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Whenever I play video games I feel as if I am killing my precious time. Or if not while I am playing -- I realize that after. I say to myself: Kyle, you could have at LEAST read, rather than play this game...

This is why I consistantly uninstall it. The next day I lose that mentality and reinstall -- its a cycle.

I am at the point in which it is uninstalled, but I want to install and play. I am fighting it.
 

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Fun versus Must

The important choice is the simpliest. Making the change, on the other hand, is a battle. A battle I am preparing for.
 

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bah im growing outta video games...

as i get older they just seem like a bigger and bigger waste of time, i have better things to do like learn things :D

now the problem is learning the things i have to learn for school :D
 
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In my honest opinion, there's nothing wrong with games as a hobby. Just keep them in their proper place.

However, the fact that you feel so bad about it, and that you cycle between uninstalling them and reinstalling them tells me its a problem for you on at least one level.

I say you unplug the games for 6 months. Then after that decide how much/little you wanna play on them for.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I have reached my decision. When I get back from the gym I will make a thread dedicated to it.

I will include the link. Expect it around: 8-9pm
 

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Go to "The Mature Man" sub-section of this forum. The thead title is akin to this one.
 

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Originally posted by Fitch
It is 12:45 a.m. at the moment. I am overwhelmed with sleepiness, thus I will keep this brief.

I need to improve my grades, increase my knowledge -- to be the best that I can be.

I lack disipline. Should I play video games or shouldn't I? Should I rather focus on studying and reading -- shunning video games?

This desire to play video games is a want. So I succumb to the desire. Or DO what I MUST do?


What schedule should I follow? etc, etc.

My aspiration is to become a lawyer. That being said, I must improve my writing/reading.

- Should I drop video gaming all together replacing it with reading
- The other questions are stated above*


*Note: Take the liberty of adding your own advice.

P.S. I am sincerly hoping that you can help me conquer my dilemma, enabling me to have a good night's rest; with this heavy burden off my chest.
dude, this has been my problem for the longest time. maybe you have ADHD as I do. only recently did I realise that i should do the work first. but, realistically, that will never happen. what i do is at the top of the hour for 15 minutes i talk on im or do whatever, then for the rest of the hour i do my studying. it works pretty well.


what really got me off my ass is i procrastinated and slacked SO much. more than you i can safely say. at school i had 15 missing assignments and hadn't taken a test. the 3 d's kinda put my ass in gear. now there all at c's and b's and working upwards.
 

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Originally posted by PYROTAK
bah im growing outta video games...

as i get older they just seem like a bigger and bigger waste of time, i have better things to do like learn things :D

now the problem is learning the things i have to learn for school :D

yea. that helps too. i suppose if what i said before didn't help, do what i do. on the weekends, play one videogame, only one, until you get so tired of it, and all videogames will not be appealing for quite a while. it's lasted over 2 weeks now
 
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