"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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aspasp

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so i got this chick's number through AIM (AFC move? probably) but i dont know what to do with it now...
and i got her a shirt for christmas that says "you had me at hello" but i'm having 2nd thoughts about giving it to her if she doesnt like it
help an AFC brother out
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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jeffthechef

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lmao isn't christmas a week past

well now iwouldn't suggest giving it as a christmas gift..but maybe something else

and just do it...if she doesn't like it...what will she do...she won't tell you,...she'll just go ohh i loved it thanks....

at least you'll know you're closer to becoming a dj
don't base your actions on the results, base them on their implications
 

Five To One

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No way man. A gift already and you havnt even hung out? Maybe if the two of you had been dating for a month but not this.

You got the number so make something happen.

Good luck
 

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Five To One said:
No way man. A gift already and you havnt even hung out? Maybe if the two of you had been dating for a month but not this.

You got the number so make something happen.

Good luck
I agree. Don't give her a gift and put her up on a pedestal after just getting her number lol.
 

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i already told her i got her something just that I havent been able to give it to her so it would he eff'd up if i just didn't give it to her. we were about to hang out but some things came up so yeah...
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Five To One

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Yeah your right. Your hand is kinda forced. Go ahead and give it to her but its not going to help your chances with her.

The most important thing you can do is learn from it.
 

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maybe turn it into a date...use the gift as a prize and if she asks why...just say youm ight want the gift for yourself cause it's that good

but idk how well this works..cause she might see the gift as you trying to get a date...so if you do do it...and she says no..she might be testing to see if you simply give the gift...so don't give it up right after her first reaction

BUT THIS COULD LEAD TO HER THINKING YOU'RE A COMPLETE *******
haha

so if you do try this...realize that it could fail...but don't let this possible failure demoralize you...as the guys above said..giving a gift right away is already bad

good luck:up:
 

Conquer

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DO NOT give the shirt. Call her get **** going
 

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HOLY **** OMG THIS IS POSSIBLY THE WORST IDEA EVER!

DO NOT GIVE HER THE GIFT!!

Jesus man, that's just AFC to the max.

I think you need to read the bible bro.
 

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^^^

You told her you got her something, but it doesn't mean you have to give her the t-shirt :p
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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remotecontrol said:
call her...arrange to meet her...say "remember when i said i got you a gift"...then lean over and kiss her on the lips.
Oooh I like the sound of that! Thats actually a really good idea!
 

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Here are some instances where it's advisable or acceptable to give gifts to women:

Mom: anytime.
Sister: Christmas, birthday, special occasion.
Good friend: Same.
Girlfriend: same, plus V-day, and please wait at least 3 months.
Girl you don't really know but want to fvck and aren't sure how because you're a pvssy: NEVER. FVCK.
 
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