"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Hello, Friends. I, JLay87, have a confession...

ENIGMA16

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I am a drunk texter. I've always had a problem with getting wasted and then texting a ton of people about random stuff; sometimes it's just as harmless as asking what they're doing, but it can get much worse. Oh believe me, much worse.

So I've been thinking about how to alleviate this problem for some time, as it is incredibly annoying, and I have at least for the time being come up with a solution to prevent the worst case scenarios.

If you have numbers of girls that you just met or are seeing in your phone, or want to mess around with, take these numbers out of your phone. Write them down on a piece of paper and delete them from your phone. That way you aren't able to text them. So simple, yet so genius. The only problem with this is that they call and you're like "who's this?"

That's all I've really come up with so far. How do you deal with this terrible habit?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Pathgen

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1) Have some Self-Control
2) Don't get that drunk
3) Disable texting from your service plan
4) Don't Bring your phone when you get that drunk
 

JCballin88

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I usually leave my phone back in my dorm room if I'm going to the bar here in town. If I know I'm going to be drinking at least moderately, then I probably shouldn't be using my phone anyways. So I just don't bring it.
 

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If your drinking is starting to adversely affect your life, maybe you should lay off the booze.
 

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Google has this service where it can force you to solve a little math problem or puzzle before it allows you to send a mail. But no phone I know has that feature. You could probably write a program(altho I have no idea if you can hook that deep into the OS of your phone) that does that on something like an Android or Windows Mobile phone, but that requires you to be able to program a computer and I have better things to do than writing you software.

Alternatively, you could get yourself a 2nd phone, which is your DJ phone. Get yourself also a (cheap) safe with time lock, and when you go out, you put your DJ phone in the safe, timelock it till the moment in time where you expect to be sober or at least asleep in bed and then go out. Never use your other phone to pick up girls. And if you do, you're probably going to **** those over but you still have your DJP with the biggest stash of numbers in the safe.

That's about anything I can think of in the physical means of preventing it, other than not getting that hammered...
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Warrior74

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Stop drinking so much anyway. Disable texing from your phone.
 

arutha

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Yeah the obvious solution if your drinking is being a problem is to stop drinking so much... You can still have plenty of fun just tipsy, or even completely sober. Or man up and control yourself, I used to send heaps of stupid drunk texts now I still get drunk all the time but hardly ever send a message out.
 

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JLay87 said:
I am a drunk texter. I've always had a problem with getting wasted and then texting a ton of people about random stuff; sometimes it's just as harmless as asking what they're doing, but it can get much worse. Oh believe me, much worse.

So I've been thinking about how to alleviate this problem for some time, as it is incredibly annoying, and I have at least for the time being come up with a solution to prevent the worst case scenarios.

If you have numbers of girls that you just met or are seeing in your phone, or want to mess around with, take these numbers out of your phone. Write them down on a piece of paper and delete them from your phone. That way you aren't able to text them. So simple, yet so genius. The only problem with this is that they call and you're like "who's this?"

That's all I've really come up with so far. How do you deal with this terrible habit?
I think its so awsome you posted this thread cause I was having a huge problem with the same thing..Up until It got to the point I would have to delete everyones number cause I just kept doing it..I completley understand where your comming from and know how awfull you can feel the next day..I would always just delete the text from my phone after I sent the message so I wouldnt have to remember or look at what dumb **** I sent out...Dont be to hard on yourself..ohh and I'm working on not drinking as much either..although its not really working at the moment..but I'll see cause i do like to drink
 

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chrisgoodrich25 said:
I think its so awsome you posted this thread cause I was having a huge problem with the same thing..Up until It got to the point I would have to delete everyones number cause I just kept doing it..I completley understand where your comming from and know how awfull you can feel the next day..I would always just delete the text from my phone after I sent the message so I wouldnt have to remember or look at what dumb **** I sent out...Dont be to hard on yourself..ohh and I'm working on not drinking as much either..although its not really working at the moment..but I'll see cause i do like to drink

I could see doing this if you were 18 but 25? Wow not to sound mean but grow up man.
 

ENIGMA16

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Well drinking's never "been a problem" for me the problem is the texting. But yeah most of you are right, I could probably cut back so I'm not at that point. :)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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