hello everyone, i'm new here and i've got questions....

[trent423]

hi,

ok, now before everybody goes to telling me to read that dj bible i'll tell you i've already read almost all of it, but i still have some questions that i hope can be answered, ok.

1. i go to school at LSU and i have had crushes on like every chick on the cheerleading team but none of them seem to really even give me the time of day. i try the whole c+f thing and i've never been told that i was like unattractive but they just don't seem to like me or want to have anything to do with me and i can't help but feel attracted to them. can somebody tell me what to do here?

this one time i did chat up this one cheerleader and successfully got her email. i emailed her saying that i'd like to get together with her for some coffee but she never resonded to it. not only did she not respond to it but she completely blew me off everytime i saw her, almost as if she was trying to avoid me or something. this kind of hurt my feelings somewhat. this has happened with like 3 other cheerleaders, too. maybe they're out of my league. my friend says that's not true but i'm starting to think so now, even though i didn't think that before all of this.

2. how do i make myself comfortable with approaching girls? like, i know what to say and everything but i feel so uncomfortable doing it that i might screw something up? this has probably been asked like a hundred times but if you just say 'grab your balls and do it' then that won't realy help me. i would approach more of the cheerleaders but they just come off as if they don't want me to talk to them. plus the fact that two of them think i'm a total loser.

3. i just got out of a terrible relationship with this girl who ended up cheating on me. it turns out that i find out later that she cheated on every single boyfriend she has ever had. why do girls who cheat get all the guys and why do guys who cheat get all the chicks?

-thanks,
trent

 

[Interpol]

1. Might wanna lay off the cheerleaders for awhile.

2. Practice makes pefect. Try the bootcamp.

3. No easy answer to this one. Hate to say this, but read the DJ Bible (upper right corner of the site).

 

[trent423]

1. Might wanna lay off the cheerleaders for awhile.

yeah, I think you might be right about that one.

2. Practice makes pefect. Try the bootcamp.

bootcamp??? i'm sorry but i'm not familiar with that term.

3. No easy answer to this one. Hate to say this, but read the DJ Bible (upper right corner of the site).

haha. ok.

 

[Lifeforce]

1. You don't have what it takes yet to get those kind off girls. You have to give to get, in this case being someone who can compete with the status off a cheerleader. Your current status in their eyes is loser as you said yourself. Now do you think that any girl will want to get together with someone they think is a loser? Work on yourself and improve. Better girls will be attracted.

2. You should **** up, after a certain amount of screwing up you will finally have got some insight into the whole system.

3. Because everyone can't get me. :]

 

[trent423]

You don't have what it takes yet to get those kind off girls. You have to give to get, in this case being someone who can compete with the status off a cheerleader. Your current status in their eyes is loser as you said yourself. Now do you think that any girl will want to get together with someone they think is a loser? Work on yourself and improve. Better girls will be attracted.

that's the problem tho. i don't know why they're not interested in me. i don't know what it takes. it's not like they don't date guys, they date guys all the time but they just won't date me.

i don't know what these other guys have that i don't.

 

[Lifeforce]

If they are not interested, just move on. You have what you want to be all in your ideal that is in your head. Strive for that and good girls will be attracted.

 

[Craig Reeves]

What is your obsession with the cheerleaders?

 

[trent423]

Because they're popular, super hot, and super talented. They get hit on all the time so apparently dating them would guarrantee that I was dating a high quality girl.

 

[Craig Reeves]

Just because they're good looking and talented does not make them high quality. They just have aspects about them that you admire, but that doesn't make them good women.

You need to kind of raise your standards a bit. It seems that you're only trying to date these girls because they're cheerleaders.

Stop worrying about what these girls think. if they're going to think that you're a loser and they haven't even gotten to know you at all....do you REALLY think that's high quality? It certainly doesn't sound like it to me.

Stop blaming yourself as to why these girls are blowing you off. Just because they're good looking or whatever does not mean at all that they have any right treat you like a loser. Find a woman who actually gives a sh!t about other people besides herself.

I swear soooooo many guys who are having girl problems are having problems with the WRONG kind of girls. And the reason why is because they automatically think that just because she's pretty and gets hit on a lot she just HAS to be a catch.....NOT true, sweetheart, not true.