"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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hello all- im new, my intro to the forums

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I wasnt sure if there was a place to post introductions.I want to thank everyone for this forum. Thank you. I am very glad I found it and at the perfect time in my life. I need help bad.
I am on my first assignment with boot camp, gonna go to the mall and say hi to as many ppl as I can and practice eye contact today. I think i need a drink lol.
About me-
I have pretty much been in long term relationships since I was 18. This one I am breaking up with now-Im 28 yrs old shes 40. Been with her 8 yrs. She was a 10 seriously, when I met her. Now, not so much. No sex, all she does is complain, like were married, might as well have been.:box:

Anyway we have gotten to the point where we both finally called it quits, something we should have done on 3rd date. But she was hot and I dont do well alone. She completely drained me of my manhood and turned me in to a wussy. All my fault for allowing it.
Now with no balls left, no furniture, a crappy truck that embarrises me to drive, Im on my own again. I feel like half the man I used to be, I am nervous as hell talking to a woman now unless Im drunk. Then I usually make an @ss out of myself.
I am going to do alot of reading in these forums. I dont really know the terms very well , just figured out what kino meant, where do I find a glossary? Ne way Any advice,inspiration, for a new-b would be appreciated. And again hello all and thanks -

P.S> how do I post my field results and where?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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You can post your FR in the main forum if you want, its where most people do. Glad you found the Don Juan boot camp, its valuable for getting back into the field.

There is also the Don Juan Bible (link in my sig and bottom of main page. There is also a forum for guys older 25 and situations unique to them.

Here is a link to acronyms
 

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Cool now I can understand what ppl are talkin about thanks
 

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1. Listen to Eckhart Tolle audio nonstop for a week or two. "The Power of Now" and "A New Earth" are great. They sell them at Borders or on his website.

2. Get out of your house 3-5 times a week. No less, no more. Talk to 5 girls when you are out. Take the interaction as far as you can with each girl. If you end up sleeping with girl #1 each time you go out, you no longer need to visit these forums.

Give lots of thanks to a guy named Ciaran when you meet him, for this mission was originally his idea.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Well I went to the mall for awhile and ive never seen the place so dead. But I managed to say hi to at least 10 girls and made good eye contact. Some smiled I smiled back. I tried to talk to 1 without any success.
her>(works at store)hello how are you today?
me>Im doin good and you?
her>pretty good
me>is it always this slow in here?
her>pretty much this time on thursdays
me>(smiled like hmm) then nothin
I had nothin. A loss for words, I just continued on.
O well, at least I feel I accomplished part of my mission.
 

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You started the convo, thats the first step. As you do it more, you'll get more comfortable over time and it will naturally come to you. If you need to, have a list of topics that you bring up when you don't know what to say.

In the anything else forum, there is a new thread started today by a game name MikeYikes and it a good start for small conversation skills.
 
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