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Hell Hath No Fury - why you mustn't 'Reject' women

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shyt. at school, there was this hot dancer chick who has been smiling at me all of last year, but my inner game was in trouble so I thought she was just being friendly. The iron probably isn't hot anymore, but I'm going to ask her for coffee anyway.
 
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Point taken. I find men to be just as mega crazy when rejected though. Maybe you could explain this value that is heaped upon women's sexuality, is it the same value that is heaped upon men's masculinity? I think yes. Society puts pressure on both genders. I am not here as a hostile woman, I am here to learn. I am active on a woman's forum and we have 3 men and hundereds of women, and we embrace them as they share valued insight.
 

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Johnny Soporno said:
Women DREAD being rejected, even more than men do!

'Pick Up' principally exists to alert guys to that it's OKAY to begin a conversation with a woman, and that the worst thing that will happen is that she'll dismiss you impolitely! So after a short while of being 'rejected' frequently, you become accepting of it, and inured to it... being rejected never feels GOOD, but the sting wanes and isn't so severe, after just a little while.

WOMEN ARE NOT USED TO BEING REJECTED (at least, not actively!) and NEVER get used to being 'rejected after the fact' (ie, guys' not phoning)

Therefore, most women hesitate or refuse to give men their numbers when they suspect there is ANY chance that the guy won't call.

In essence, if you take a phone number from a girl and you DON'T phone her the very next day, she feels rejected.
If you haven't phoned her by the end of the second day, she rationalizes that YOU JUST DIDN'T HAVE THE BALLS to follow up.

If you first call her on or after the third day since she gave you her number, she figures "Oh, so he's playing a GAME... WELL... I can play games too!" (And women are a DAMN sight better at it that any of us!)

BUT they DO crave and want sex - and they want it with men who CANNOT leave them feeling taken advantage of - so they either USE MEN for sex, or they force men into guarantying them some form of security before they consummate their sexual relationship.

The #1 absolutely greatest fear any woman has regarding sex IS FEELING "USED" - (even more frightening than the prospect of being rejected!) so if they decide they want to have sex with you RIGHT NOW, and you take them up on it, everyone wins.

If you DON'T take them up on it, they feel rejected in a PRIMAL way - since women are raised to believe their greatest asset and their ultimate value socially is their sexuality (Yeah, it's ****ed up, but that's how our culture raises women!) - so by rejecting them, YOU DISCOUNT THEM AS VALUELESS - and that hurts a lot!

Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned - and SCORNED means 'rejected and dismissed, humiliatingly'.


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This is another "because they can" post. If a woman likes me, and I am more attractive than she is, I don't care what she does after I reject her. Why? Because I can... in my eyes, they are of less value than me. And since I am the prize and furthermore since I don't have to try to get the type of girl who would show attraction, I only want a girl higher up on the food chain than the "scorned" woman. It makes very little difference what the less valuable person in any social dynamic feels, because they are easily replaced.

Just remember, that hottie who rejected you gets rejected daily by super attractive males. Not only do they not "call the girl back", but they might make her pay for things and cause her to descend into clinical depression. Does the male doing the rejecting care even a little bit about the plight of the girl he just rejected? Not one bit.
 

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Why should I care if a woman crys to herself to sleep after I reject her???
 

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Absolutely .. worst kind of rejection is to fk her brains out on the first or second date, make extensive plans for next week then don't return her calls. I knew one girl who almost commmitted herself after this happpened ..no kidding!


This ever happen or you hear about it
 

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bud_2005 said:
Why should I care if a woman crys to herself to sleep after I reject her???
You shouldn't. That is the point. Women don't cry after they reject unworthy males.
 

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awww sh1t

they'll get over it

I've rejected women before. It's part of life, if they can't handle it then they need to grow up.

The first one I rejected just stopped messaging me after 2 failed attempts. Good, that's how you do it

The second one, my gosh, you'd think I was the biggest bastard/player ever. She kept texting me talking about how she hates me and how I made her so upset. I felt a little bad I admit (I misinterpreted her advances as just being cool), but i told her to get over it and just ignored her after that. She now will pop up every now and then asking how I am and that i'm so sexy. I just ignore her though. I don't lead on chicks.

The third on called herself trying to play games I guess. She never returned my calls and never excepted to hang out. So I next her then after a few days she texts me talking about how I don't talk to her anymore that that I'm being an ******* like all the other guys. I flat out deleted her number after that. I'm sorry, but I don't play games I told her
 
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DonGorgon said:
men spend so much time chasing that seldom have the chance to reject a woman
That's because women don't approach men. I bet 90% of men will live a life where not once did a woman make the first move on them throughout their whole life! and that same 90% of men are happy with whatever cute bunny they manage to pull. Most men are not good looking or have enough personal attraction or game to attract women to the point they get a chance to reject even 1 of them. They are just happy to get it on with the few that give them the time of day.
 

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It is good to watch how women handle rejection though. The few I have rejected, one took it in stride on the surface, but kept calling. One broke down crying in a bar and her boyfriend wanted to beat me up and kept asking what did I say to her (I said nothing,she asked me why we didn't "make it, and I told her we just weren't right for each other), the last one got ghetto and threatened to fvck up my ****. LOL.
 
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A girl may cry herself to sleep because of the rejection of a man, so that must be what most of you are dealing with. Date a mature level headed smart woman and you will see her back as she gracefully walks away thinking NEXT!
 
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I've rejected a woman before, I didn't get a chance to see her reaction as I did it by text, changed my number and deleted her from MSN.

:crackup:
 

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Duffdog said:
You shouldn't. That is the point. Women don't cry after they reject unworthy males.
I guess I'm a little confused I thought the OP was trying to get the message across that you should always let girls down VERY lightly because they might not survive if just "reject" them.
 
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Some of you guys need to lighten up. But if you want to give me a medal I will surely take it, seems to me a lot of you deseve a medal for you many conquests. I am offering a woman's perspective, take it or leave it, pretty simple.
 

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bud_2005 said:
I guess I'm a little confused I thought the OP was trying to get the message across that you should always let girls down VERY lightly because they might not survive if just "reject" them.
OK, well, if that is the idea that the OP is trying to "get across", then its wrong. In the eyes of a valuable male, girls that aren't up to snuff might as well not exist, there is no need to even acknowledge that they are talking to you. Unless of course, you really are NOT a valuable male...

Think of it this way: You spot a hot girl, and begin to walk toward her. On your way to the hottie, you get bombarded by a sea of flabby, useless chics who want nothing more than to prove to you how they are "just as good" as the hottie. At first you start to agree, hoping that they will go away and let you get to your destination. But the sheer number of them bogs you down and you care less and less about what they say because you just want them to get the fvck out of your way so that you can have the hottie. But still they persist in their endeavors, continuing to block your path...eventually you get fed up and start pushing them out of the way because they truly are useless to you. They are nothing more than obstacles impeding your path. Now, imagine that this happens every single time you try to approach a hot girl anywhere. Eventually, you will be conditioned to go right for the kill and destroy those in your path because you know that the end result will be the same no matter what, so you decide that you are just going to flat out reject these obstacles to get them out of your way the fastest.

Although it sounds "mean" that is what you should do.

You could reverse the genders and replace "fat girls" with "average guys" and see what women do. Of course, a womens fastest defense is just flaking on you, no matter what you said.

Average guys: follow the OP's advise and wonder why you suck.

Valuable guys: you already know what to do, so keep doing it.
 

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robinincarolina said:
Some of you guys need to lighten up. But if you want to give me a medal I will surely take it, seems to me a lot of you deseve a medal for you many conquests. I am offering a woman's perspective, take it or leave it, pretty simple.
Don't take offense to what a lot of guys say on here

Most guys are trying to recover from a past hurt from women and some are just flat out Bitter
 
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raikojo17,

Thanks, I have learned by reading here for a while now that duffdog would be one of the bitter. I clicked on his name and read all of his posts because he constantly attacks me, that he is very bitter indead. Life is too short! Amd are we not all trying to recover from past hurt, regardless of gender?
 

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robinincarolina said:
raikojo17,

Thanks, I have learned by reading here for a while now that duffdog would be one of the bitter. I clicked on his name and read all of his posts because he constantly attacks me, that he is very bitter indead. Life is too short! Amd are we not all trying to recover from past hurt, regardless of gender?

lol at the girl in the boys club house. Honestly, most guys here who have been thru the ringer don't want to hear a woman's point of view, because it just hasn't matched up for the most part with the reality of what has happened to them. You can't blame them for it and your asking for what you get when you step inside the ride. It's like me going to a fat divorced feminist meeting and telling them that most guys want hot young single childless women. They don't wanna hear that shiit. I'm curious, what are you trying to achieve here?
 
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