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[OnTheBrightside]

How do you handle the really shy girls? I was chilling with this chick and her friend a couple days ago, and she barely said anything. I was constantly trying to think of things to say and questions to ask but I couldn't think of much lol. Alot of times I would catch her looking at me then she would look away. I asked her to stop being so shy as a joke (dunno if that was a good thing to say or not... haha) and she just says "what? I don't have anything to say."


She acts different online, she would be messaging me a ton.

Christ she sounds like me when I used to be terrible with women.

She obviously likes me, but I just want to know how to make her open up more heh.


I tried to do a search but the limit of words is 4, and shy has 3... heh.

I'm kind of new so help me out here.

 

[oakraiderz2]

Originally posted by OnTheBrightside
How do you handle the really shy girls? I was chilling with this chick and her friend a couple days ago, and she barely said anything. I was constantly trying to think of things to say and questions to ask but I couldn't think of much lol. Alot of times I would catch her looking at me then she would look away. I asked her to stop being so shy as a joke (dunno if that was a good thing to say or not... haha) and she just says "what? I don't have anything to say."


She acts different online, she would be messaging me a ton.

Christ she sounds like me when I used to be terrible with women.

She obviously likes me, but I just want to know how to make her open up more heh.


I tried to do a search but the limit of words is 4, and shy has 3... heh.

I'm kind of new so help me out here.

Bringing up her being shy isnt gonna help so dont do that again. Just talk to her, find stuff out about her. What kinda music she likes, sports, family, and sh*t like that. Open up to her and she'll follow suite.

 

[Fitch]

Originally posted by OnTheBrightside
How do you handle the really shy girls? I was chilling with this chick and her friend a couple days ago, and she barely said anything. I was constantly trying to think of things to say and questions to ask but I couldn't think of much lol. Alot of times I would catch her looking at me then she would look away. I asked her to stop being so shy as a joke (dunno if that was a good thing to say or not... haha) and she just says "what? I don't have anything to say."


She acts different online, she would be messaging me a ton.

Christ she sounds like me when I used to be terrible with women.

She obviously likes me, but I just want to know how to make her open up more heh.


I tried to do a search but the limit of words is 4, and shy has 3... heh.

I'm kind of new so help me out here.

Okay, so you want to her to open up to you, but she's too shy, right?

You need to find the underlying cause for her shyness. Only with understand on the reason of her shyness, one can solve the problem at hand. The reason is clear-cut. She is uncomfortable around you, in a good sense. She's intimidated, and is afraid that she will mess up.

One the internet you are less intimidating, for she is in the privacy of her own room without you in her face.

Isolate her, and begin talking about things you like. She will chime in. Ask her ice-breaking questions, like..."hmm.. if I could take you anywhere in the world right now, where would you want to go?" Ask amusing, interesting questions, and soon she will burst like a pressurized can and be more outgoing; even willing to take it a step further with you.

Believe me, she visualizes doing you daily, she just needs a motivation.

-- Make sure you add some charm, emphathy, and c&f into the mix.

EDIT: Get her comfortable; let her get to know you.

 

[Docs]

To add. Girls love to talk about themselves.

Introduction to Conversation Starting and Maintaining - Self-Written Post

 

[Fitch]

Originally posted by Docs
To add. Girls love to talk about themselves.

Introduction to Conversation Starting and Maintaining - Self-Written Post

Good advice, I enjoyed it. However, one should remember to think beyond the "rule book" and just use that as a guideline. There is no one way to strike-up, and continue, a conversation. So do not get stuck in a only one method mentality.

It's great to start from, however.

 

[Docs]

"Introduction"

I know, I know, just bugging. It's good to have multiple ways to talk to people.

Thanks for enjoying, rate it

 

[Fitch]

Originally posted by Docs
"Introduction"

I know, I know, just bugging. It's good to have multiple ways to talk to people.

Thanks for enjoying, rate it

Yeah, I caught that.

And, I already rated it. He-he.

 

[check_mate_kid_uk]

Fitch that is great advice....if you are breifing her phyciatrist! What you need to do is make her feel comfortable around you. Do not use C&f on her and dont play jokes on her, but making her laugh is good, i do this and i have had quite a few girls say i am easy to talk to. It also takes time and be nice, but not nice as in you will do stuff for her and buy her things. Nice as in, nice in the conversation, and do not sexualise things as this will scare her.

 

[oakraiderz2]

Originally posted by check_mate_kid_uk
Fitch that is great advice....if you are breifing her phyciatrist! What you need to do is make her feel comfortable around you. Do not use C&f on her and dont play jokes on her, but making her laugh is good, i do this and i have had quite a few girls say i am easy to talk to. It also takes time and be nice, but not nice as in you will do stuff for her and buy her things. Nice as in, nice in the conversation, and do not sexualise things as this will scare her.

I wouldnt exactly say DONT use C&F. Just because shes shy doesnt mean shell be turned off or incredibly shy by being ****y around her. Try a small dose on her if you think it would be effective.