Heed my warning when dating an abused woman!

[BigFoot]

Thanks for sharing that Alfadog. It was so similar to an experience of mine (even the 20 years part) I could really relate.
Everyone else: most of what you describe as "BPD" or Bi-polar could apply to normal people as well.
Wyldfire, if someone is nice to you and you ignore him, then he gets angry with you, is that so abnormal? I think it's pretty common. I've known many people who are "Bi-polar" (as distinguished from BPD) and they are usually pretty mild and nice
people most of the time, certainly for longer periods than most "normal" people.
Actually, I think healthy "normal" people get angry at times and also have different moods, especially when dealing with a troubled relationship.

 

[Wyldfire]

Originally posted by BigFoot
Thanks for sharing that Alfadog. It was so similar to an experience of mine (even the 20 years part) I could really relate.
Everyone else: most of what you describe as "BPD" or Bi-polar could apply to normal people as well.
Wyldfire, if someone is nice to you and you ignore him, then he gets angry with you, is that so abnormal? I think it's pretty common. I've known many people who are "Bi-polar" (as distinguished from BPD) and they are usually pretty mild and nice
people most of the time, certainly for longer periods than most "normal" people.
Actually, I think healthy "normal" people get angry at times and also have different moods, especially when dealing with a troubled relationship.

The mood swings aren't the only symptom of BPD. Toss in some self mutiliation, threats and attempts at suicide, intense fear of abandonment, lying, verbal, emotional and physical abuse, possibly some substance abuse and addiction, rapidly cycling mood changes (exaggerated happiness straight into an all out rage just seconds later for NO reason). To be BPD someone has to meet a certain criteria. If they're normal, they won't meet it.