She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Quiksilver said:No. With pebbles especially No. No matter how "tight" it is, it will still have a bounce effect as your body expands/contracts with breathing.
The problem is the delay effect of a backpack. When your leg hits the ground in a running gait, the force of the pebbles hits you right afterwards. This is essentially like dropping 25lbs onto your knee joint every stride.
It's different from a fat person where an extra 25lbs moves in conjuction to the rest of their body so they don't feel it as much. If you can find a weight that doesn't bounce up and down then its fine. But a backpack is arthritic suicide.
Hold a couple of 10lbs dumbbells in your hands and do it. That'll give your upper arms a workout at the same time.
Add extra weight = Yes it's helpful
Backpack = No, its asking for trouble
Ideally the best setup is to be pulling something. Like have a weight behind you. It takes special gear, but its much better.
Good luck.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
that works too.Oxide said:Here is the easy way bro - grab two 30lbs dumbells and carry them as you walk on the treadmill.
I go out everyday on a set of train tracks that leads all around a wooded area, and I want to simply want to burn some extra calories.....its winter and Running kills me.....I dont have a gym to go to. So Im hoping that a heavy pack combined with my long walks will give me some sort of advantage over a simple walk.Teflon_Mcgee said:it's not adviseable. I used to do this daily (4-5 days/week) with between 30-100 pounds for 2-3 hours at a time running a relatively good pace (8-9 min/mile).
While it turns you into a maniac, it's not good on the knees.
I still do it a few times per month for maybe 8 miles but I have a definate way above average conditional base and am very keen at knowing when enough is enough.
IF you do want to do it I recommend doing it while running up steep hills only. This lessens the impact and increases the load.
I used to run to the peak of a mountian range and then follow the crest back down. The downhills on the crest are what messed my knees up. So if you go down hill just walk (what I started doing.)
And under no circumastances would I suggest doing this if you don't consider yourself in hardcore physical shape with atleast a year or two of solid training.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Yeah. that's fine. Walking with a weighted pack is great for the legs and does really increase muscle and endurance. I would still recommend hills just for the added intensity.pvf94 said:I go out everyday on a set of train tracks that leads all around a wooded area, and I want to simply want to burn some extra calories.....its winter and Running kills me.....I dont have a gym to go to. So Im hoping that a heavy pack combined with my long walks will give me some sort of advantage over a simple walk.
Teflon_Mcgee said:Yeah. that's fine. Walking with a weighted pack is great for the legs and does really increase muscle and endurance. I would still recommend hills just for the added intensity.
There have been times I put well over 250 miles per week with 120 pounds on for 2 weeks at a time and have never experienced any ill effects from it.
Other than having huge quads and calves that cannot burn out.
I doubt you built significant muscle from this unless you had little to start with, in which case yes, it could induce hypertrophy. possibly you got leaner and you legs appeared bigger - in either case it doesn't really matter, GPP work is always good.Teflon_Mcgee said:Other than having huge quads and calves that cannot burn out.
Trust me, my legs are tree trunks. Don't worry Warboss, I'm of the same philosophy as you on lowerbody and core training. I've never found a point I disagree with you on.Warboss Alex said:I doubt you built significant muscle from this unless you had little to start with, in which case yes, it could induce hypertrophy. possibly you got leaner and you legs appeared bigger - in either case it doesn't really matter, GPP work is always good.![]()
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Sandbag.pvf94 said:Im broke, and I dont know what I should use to "weight" the backpack