You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Quiksilver said:No. With pebbles especially No. No matter how "tight" it is, it will still have a bounce effect as your body expands/contracts with breathing.
The problem is the delay effect of a backpack. When your leg hits the ground in a running gait, the force of the pebbles hits you right afterwards. This is essentially like dropping 25lbs onto your knee joint every stride.
It's different from a fat person where an extra 25lbs moves in conjuction to the rest of their body so they don't feel it as much. If you can find a weight that doesn't bounce up and down then its fine. But a backpack is arthritic suicide.
Hold a couple of 10lbs dumbbells in your hands and do it. That'll give your upper arms a workout at the same time.
Add extra weight = Yes it's helpful
Backpack = No, its asking for trouble
Ideally the best setup is to be pulling something. Like have a weight behind you. It takes special gear, but its much better.
Good luck.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
that works too.Oxide said:Here is the easy way bro - grab two 30lbs dumbells and carry them as you walk on the treadmill.
I go out everyday on a set of train tracks that leads all around a wooded area, and I want to simply want to burn some extra calories.....its winter and Running kills me.....I dont have a gym to go to. So Im hoping that a heavy pack combined with my long walks will give me some sort of advantage over a simple walk.Teflon_Mcgee said:it's not adviseable. I used to do this daily (4-5 days/week) with between 30-100 pounds for 2-3 hours at a time running a relatively good pace (8-9 min/mile).
While it turns you into a maniac, it's not good on the knees.
I still do it a few times per month for maybe 8 miles but I have a definate way above average conditional base and am very keen at knowing when enough is enough.
IF you do want to do it I recommend doing it while running up steep hills only. This lessens the impact and increases the load.
I used to run to the peak of a mountian range and then follow the crest back down. The downhills on the crest are what messed my knees up. So if you go down hill just walk (what I started doing.)
And under no circumastances would I suggest doing this if you don't consider yourself in hardcore physical shape with atleast a year or two of solid training.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Yeah. that's fine. Walking with a weighted pack is great for the legs and does really increase muscle and endurance. I would still recommend hills just for the added intensity.pvf94 said:I go out everyday on a set of train tracks that leads all around a wooded area, and I want to simply want to burn some extra calories.....its winter and Running kills me.....I dont have a gym to go to. So Im hoping that a heavy pack combined with my long walks will give me some sort of advantage over a simple walk.
Teflon_Mcgee said:Yeah. that's fine. Walking with a weighted pack is great for the legs and does really increase muscle and endurance. I would still recommend hills just for the added intensity.
There have been times I put well over 250 miles per week with 120 pounds on for 2 weeks at a time and have never experienced any ill effects from it.
Other than having huge quads and calves that cannot burn out.
I doubt you built significant muscle from this unless you had little to start with, in which case yes, it could induce hypertrophy. possibly you got leaner and you legs appeared bigger - in either case it doesn't really matter, GPP work is always good.Teflon_Mcgee said:Other than having huge quads and calves that cannot burn out.
Trust me, my legs are tree trunks. Don't worry Warboss, I'm of the same philosophy as you on lowerbody and core training. I've never found a point I disagree with you on.Warboss Alex said:I doubt you built significant muscle from this unless you had little to start with, in which case yes, it could induce hypertrophy. possibly you got leaner and you legs appeared bigger - in either case it doesn't really matter, GPP work is always good.![]()
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Sandbag.pvf94 said:Im broke, and I dont know what I should use to "weight" the backpack