"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Heartbroken guy - Need some help to open up again

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Having been a practicing PUA for so long, I really dig opinion openers. Or, sometimes opening with a NEG hit is a great way to get things going. Comment on something distracting or negative, and then build positiveness around that.

The French girl I started dating. Saw her shivering outside of the bus stop (we wound up spending a couple of hours together after we met, before we found out we were going the same place) and I mentioned the fact that she was shivering.

ME - *laugh* You cold?

HER - It's freezing out here!

ME - It's not that bad. Besides, with that cute little dance you're doing you should be getting enough body heat.


Went from there. Took her virginity two weeks later. We dated for about three months, split on RIDICULOUSLY good terms. Really, we only broke up because she moved back to France.


Advice - read up on "canned openers". They're great for getting that ice broken and having something to say, always, when you approach a girl. I can send some of the ones I use on a regular basis in a private message if you like, or you can read up and come up with some of your own.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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