LuckyStrike88
Don Juan
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I'm aware that it is an extremely long text to read. And i understand people not wanting to take the time to read the whole thing, thats fine i understand. Evenso i would like point out that this is what i have come up with after life of heartbreaks trying and failing. Though i am confident about this new appoach i am taking to help people that experienced the same thing that are also tired of the heartbreak and suffering trying to get better at this and need a fix. To the experts out there i'd like to say if you do decide to read the whole thing first of all thank you, and please tell me if i am doing the right thing or not. Even bust my ass if needed, because i am always interested in learning and i will take all your advice into serious consideration.
When you are allready very much in love with a women. And she pulls away, your feelings for her increase dramatically.
Then the heartache kicks in because it is at that point maybe the thing you want most in your life.
It might just be too much to bair, so the only way for you to feel good is to try and get her back.
But you are crushed, weak. And the attempts that you naturally take to get her back communicate desperation, craving for her approval. And letting it all out trying to get her back is investing in her again. By nature when we invest in something we start to value it, and the more you invest the more you start to value that something, in this case her.
It will only make things worse and causes more heartache. And you are probably not going to her back communicating weakness and desperation. Most women are attracted to men that are of higher status than her. And for most women that consider themselves to be high value with alot of power of choice with men it is far more appealing to her to just find another strong guy, unless she is more tolerant in this sort of behavior and really cares about you.
But i have felt that the latter is more probable in most women, sometimes they stick around to gain something from you. It could even be for your money or support of any kind. But once her image of you has weakness inside of it, she is likely going to eventually find another guy that she percieves as a stronger man. And chances are she is even on the lookout for such a man while she takes you back and is with you again. Best thing is just to take your loss, learn and keep your selfrespect.
We have to accept that things are not as they used to be, these days woman are independant, stronger. And generally have much more power of choice with men than we have with women. They know it and we know it. But as much as this seems a curse it is also a blessing in disguise. Because if you are able to learn how to make the woman feel how she wants to feel you stand out from the crowd. This skill we are learning/improving, you can keep better at this for as long as your entire lifespan. Because in the end it is more about personality traits than so much about looks. A womans power lays more in looks, they get old or fat eventually, unlike us men they have a limited time in which they can increase their attractiveness.
Just to be clear i was never naturally good with women because of many reasons including the childhood i went through. And what i want is what i consider to be high value women, hot women, and those have alot of power of choice and experiance when it comes to men. Some of you might have other intentions but just to clarify that this is the mindset that i am approaching this subject from. And i have improved greatly from where i started. I started from the bottom of the pit, thinking back i'd never think i would come this far but still i am far from where i want to be.
But after years of heartbreaks since childhood up till now, trying and failing. I eventually found out that it was posible to get better at this about 3 years ago. I started hooking up with girls id never thought id have a chance with from where i started. And i had alot of sex, dates and relationships eventhough they didn't last very long. Everything that i had learned wasn't getting me the results i expected, the women i had relationships with eventually moved onto other men. And a follow up of these short relationships shorly after one another made me hit rock bottom. I started to think and had an insight. I decided to do things differently from now on. Everything that i had learned in the 3 years kind of clicked, it all made sense where i was struggling so hard before.
It's all about power and having the upper hand, but when you are not at a high enough level you will get very attached to an exceptional women that shows interest that you consider to be "out of your league" and you are feeling so happy that you got her. It will be kind of hard to stand up to her if she for example is dominant and give you **** tests, or pulls away from you for some reason. And it will **** you up if your weakness results in her leaving you.
The new approach
What i am going to do is take the risk of losing her, not taking any **** from her. Being more picky about stuff than i actually am. Teasing her in a way that i would otherwise never dare in fear of losing her. Basically do and say whatever the **** i want, turning the whole frame around of woman having the power. And if i go a little overboard with it and do lose her, i know that it is going to be a big learning experiance which i can apply to the next women. Losing a woman out of weakness breaks your heart far more than losing a women out of strength and dominance. And i have seen far more women getting back together with guys that where too dominant than guys that were too weak, if they do actually get back with the weak ones ive seen that they end up leaving them later anyway for stronger men. Woman take pleasure in using their femininity to tame dominant men and badboys, but will always wonder about stronger men if theyre image of you has weakness inside of it.
I know it sounds like a kind of extreme approach but i am done with the heartbreaks, letting woman walk over me. Since i have taken this new approach i feel free to do and say whatever i want without worrying or upsetting anyone and i see people respect me much more, i am applying it too all people not just women of interest to get into the right mindset, though i do not lose my sense of ethics. I am not abusive or hurting anyone (badly).
Went to the gym last night and decided to put on my t-shirt i bought in amsterdam. It has a picture of a hot naked girl on it giving the finger. I also wore the attitude that didn't give **** what anyone thought of it in a fun way. Men in the dressing room laughed and thought it was cool. When i walked out of the dressing room a group of 6 women walked by me and acted surprised about it at first but then laughed and said "he is one of those cool guys". Then i went to work out, very motivated and pushed it to my limits, feeling good. People that ive never talked to started talking to me and we were all joking around while it used to be kind of a tense boring gym where everybody just did their own thing and didn't say much.
In short i feel like a million bucks. Eventhough i just came out of a relationship a week ago and it initially wrecked me. I am cured of my heartbreak by this, i feel confident that i can get other hot girls. But i accept the fact that my new approach is also risky and that i could lose great girls because of it. But i have come to a point where i am willing to take that sacrifice, to become the best. I believe it is a much more effective and reliable approach coming from a bit too dominant than to come from weakness and *****foot around a girl hoping that you get somewhere. And if you aren't a badboy by nature, trying your most dominant version might just be close to what it needs to be to work for you.
I'm aware that it is an extremely long text to read. And i understand people not wanting to take the time to read the whole thing, thats fine i understand. Evenso i would like point out that this is what i have come up with after life of heartbreaks trying and failing. Though i am confident about this new appoach i am taking to help people that experienced the same thing that are also tired of the heartbreak and suffering trying to get better at this and need a fix. To the experts out there i'd like to say if you do decide to read the whole thing first of all thank you, and please tell me if i am doing the right thing or not. Even bust my ass if needed, because i am always interested in learning and i will take all your advice into serious consideration.
When you are allready very much in love with a women. And she pulls away, your feelings for her increase dramatically.
Then the heartache kicks in because it is at that point maybe the thing you want most in your life.
It might just be too much to bair, so the only way for you to feel good is to try and get her back.
But you are crushed, weak. And the attempts that you naturally take to get her back communicate desperation, craving for her approval. And letting it all out trying to get her back is investing in her again. By nature when we invest in something we start to value it, and the more you invest the more you start to value that something, in this case her.
It will only make things worse and causes more heartache. And you are probably not going to her back communicating weakness and desperation. Most women are attracted to men that are of higher status than her. And for most women that consider themselves to be high value with alot of power of choice with men it is far more appealing to her to just find another strong guy, unless she is more tolerant in this sort of behavior and really cares about you.
But i have felt that the latter is more probable in most women, sometimes they stick around to gain something from you. It could even be for your money or support of any kind. But once her image of you has weakness inside of it, she is likely going to eventually find another guy that she percieves as a stronger man. And chances are she is even on the lookout for such a man while she takes you back and is with you again. Best thing is just to take your loss, learn and keep your selfrespect.
We have to accept that things are not as they used to be, these days woman are independant, stronger. And generally have much more power of choice with men than we have with women. They know it and we know it. But as much as this seems a curse it is also a blessing in disguise. Because if you are able to learn how to make the woman feel how she wants to feel you stand out from the crowd. This skill we are learning/improving, you can keep better at this for as long as your entire lifespan. Because in the end it is more about personality traits than so much about looks. A womans power lays more in looks, they get old or fat eventually, unlike us men they have a limited time in which they can increase their attractiveness.
Just to be clear i was never naturally good with women because of many reasons including the childhood i went through. And what i want is what i consider to be high value women, hot women, and those have alot of power of choice and experiance when it comes to men. Some of you might have other intentions but just to clarify that this is the mindset that i am approaching this subject from. And i have improved greatly from where i started. I started from the bottom of the pit, thinking back i'd never think i would come this far but still i am far from where i want to be.
But after years of heartbreaks since childhood up till now, trying and failing. I eventually found out that it was posible to get better at this about 3 years ago. I started hooking up with girls id never thought id have a chance with from where i started. And i had alot of sex, dates and relationships eventhough they didn't last very long. Everything that i had learned wasn't getting me the results i expected, the women i had relationships with eventually moved onto other men. And a follow up of these short relationships shorly after one another made me hit rock bottom. I started to think and had an insight. I decided to do things differently from now on. Everything that i had learned in the 3 years kind of clicked, it all made sense where i was struggling so hard before.
It's all about power and having the upper hand, but when you are not at a high enough level you will get very attached to an exceptional women that shows interest that you consider to be "out of your league" and you are feeling so happy that you got her. It will be kind of hard to stand up to her if she for example is dominant and give you **** tests, or pulls away from you for some reason. And it will **** you up if your weakness results in her leaving you.
The new approach
What i am going to do is take the risk of losing her, not taking any **** from her. Being more picky about stuff than i actually am. Teasing her in a way that i would otherwise never dare in fear of losing her. Basically do and say whatever the **** i want, turning the whole frame around of woman having the power. And if i go a little overboard with it and do lose her, i know that it is going to be a big learning experiance which i can apply to the next women. Losing a woman out of weakness breaks your heart far more than losing a women out of strength and dominance. And i have seen far more women getting back together with guys that where too dominant than guys that were too weak, if they do actually get back with the weak ones ive seen that they end up leaving them later anyway for stronger men. Woman take pleasure in using their femininity to tame dominant men and badboys, but will always wonder about stronger men if theyre image of you has weakness inside of it.
I know it sounds like a kind of extreme approach but i am done with the heartbreaks, letting woman walk over me. Since i have taken this new approach i feel free to do and say whatever i want without worrying or upsetting anyone and i see people respect me much more, i am applying it too all people not just women of interest to get into the right mindset, though i do not lose my sense of ethics. I am not abusive or hurting anyone (badly).
Went to the gym last night and decided to put on my t-shirt i bought in amsterdam. It has a picture of a hot naked girl on it giving the finger. I also wore the attitude that didn't give **** what anyone thought of it in a fun way. Men in the dressing room laughed and thought it was cool. When i walked out of the dressing room a group of 6 women walked by me and acted surprised about it at first but then laughed and said "he is one of those cool guys". Then i went to work out, very motivated and pushed it to my limits, feeling good. People that ive never talked to started talking to me and we were all joking around while it used to be kind of a tense boring gym where everybody just did their own thing and didn't say much.
In short i feel like a million bucks. Eventhough i just came out of a relationship a week ago and it initially wrecked me. I am cured of my heartbreak by this, i feel confident that i can get other hot girls. But i accept the fact that my new approach is also risky and that i could lose great girls because of it. But i have come to a point where i am willing to take that sacrifice, to become the best. I believe it is a much more effective and reliable approach coming from a bit too dominant than to come from weakness and *****foot around a girl hoping that you get somewhere. And if you aren't a badboy by nature, trying your most dominant version might just be close to what it needs to be to work for you.
