"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Head vs. Heart

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homey72

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Ok fellas here's the dilemna. I was really into this chick earlier in the summer but things didn't work out. She isn't sticking around and we had our issues. That was about 1 month ago. We haven't seen each other since then, haven't spoken, etc... So I go to my boy's 4th party and guess who's there, we talk for a little while and it looks like things may be picking up.

Now here's the deal, I really had feelings for this one, in fact seeing her was actually a bad thing because it messed with my head. I have about 3 regulars that are in the rotation and one even seemed promising. At the 4th, I was working this older woman but was distracted by this original girls "noise". What's worse, all the effort I put into setting up the harem, guess what, now I don't care. So what the F do you do, the head says "Next" the heart says "Find a Way".

Maybe a pep talk from the pros is all I need.

Late,
Homey:confused:
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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It sounds to me like you just want the girl who didn't stick around and has issues, because she is a challenge to you. I think your head is playing tricks on you, your heart has nothing to do with it.
 
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There will always be a tug of war between your heart and your head and its own internal conflicts. Your heart is telling you that you had feelings for her but your heart is weary and cautious. Your head is telling you, you dun need this trouble, but it is also telling you that you need this challenge, because its unfinished business. Its one fcuked up situation, with no one solution fits all.

But never let your head or heart make you act AFC.
 
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The rub

Ain't that the rub, it's the ones that are a challenge that you want. Once you get them you lose interest. And why is it the ones that are a challenge are always such a disaster. I always said we should set up a support group to keep DJs from going AFC.:D

-Homey
 
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