He will drop her, I will pick her up!

[Knuckles]

I need some advice, about three months ago, a girl I love dearly asked ME out! I turned this girl down because the timing was bad (other interests too close to home)and told her that in the near future I would definately be taking applications. I understand that she needed some sexual attention, and I was not willing to give her when asked, what can I say, I am an idiot?:woo:

Well I waited too long and she ended up in a relationship with someother guy who is DJing her all up the block! He already hit it and everything! I am impressed/pissed yet at the same time I am relieved. I admire his style and promtpt action, and I can take some tips from him but I dont like her being played by someone who wants a fvckbuddy to string along. He is not up for the challenge. Things are getting way too serious too fast and I am sure he is about to kick her to the curb when things get too hot. Whether I want her too or not, she will come right to me when He purposely lucks up. 2 things can happen
#1) I told you so, get away from me you stupid chick, your easyness disgusts me!:crackup:
#2) I told you so...(come home to knuckles! :nervous: ) as you can see, here is where I need the help!
I am planning on being right there to pick up the peices of her broken heart when this happens. I need some tips on how to let her know she needs to look no further for solace comfort and companionship. I already set the tone and told her that he will leave her, now that the followup is coming I need to know exactly what to say. Come forth Gods of persuasion, Give me the glue I need to form her heart in any manner I see fit!! :box:

 

[woods]

You cant fix her broken heart. you need to let her and/or her friends pick her up and fix herself, then swoop. If you try to be her hero, you'll end up her "friend." It's a common AFC mistake to think otherwise. Tell her to give you a call when shes ready for a real man, and walk away, while she does her thing.

Im doing this myself. I know better than to swoop before she's ready. She'll let me know if/when she's ready for a real man. I am NOT gonna end up her "friend" or "emotional tampon." Thats what her AFC puppy dogs are for, and she knows it.

 

[Knuckles]

You are the man!!! I almost need no further advice, just a little.
How do I keep from breaking her spirits when I say this. Im tryin ta git her hips not split her lip!

 

[Knuckles]

best advice

Yo Bro, you have given thme the best advice in as few words as possible, I have no need for further replies. YOU ARE THE MAN!!!!!

You cant fix her broken heart. you need to let her and/or her friends pick her up and fix herself, then swoop. If you try to be her hero, you'll end up her "friend." It's a common AFC mistake to think otherwise. Tell her to give you a call when shes ready for a real man, and walk away, while she does her thing.

Im doing this myself. I know better than to swoop before she's ready. She'll let me know if/when she's ready for a real man. I am NOT gonna end up her "friend" or "emotional tampon." Thats what her AFC puppy dogs are for, and she knows it.

 

[Mind_Body_Soul]

I need some advice, about three months ago, a girl I love dearly asked ME out! I turned this girl down because the timing was bad (other interests too close to home)and told her that in the near future I would definately be taking applications. I understand that she needed some sexual attention, and I was not willing to give her when asked, what can I say, I am an idiot?:woo:

Well I waited too long and she ended up in a relationship with someother guy who is DJing her all up the block! He already hit it and everything! I am impressed/pissed yet at the same time I am relieved. I admire his style and promtpt action, and I can take some tips from him but I dont like her being played by someone who wants a fvckbuddy to string along. He is not up for the challenge. Things are getting way too serious too fast and I am sure he is about to kick her to the curb when things get too hot. Whether I want her too or not, she will come right to me when He purposely lucks up. 2 things can happen
#1) I told you so, get away from me you stupid chick, your easyness disgusts me!:crackup:
#2) I told you so...(come home to knuckles! :nervous: ) as you can see, here is where I need the help!
I am planning on being right there to pick up the peices of her broken heart when this happens. I need some tips on how to let her know she needs to look no further for solace comfort and companionship. I already set the tone and told her that he will leave her, now that the followup is coming I need to know exactly what to say. Come forth Gods of persuasion, Give me the glue I need to form her heart in any manner I see fit!! :box:

Hey dude, I don't mean to flame, but is it possible that the only reason you are interested in this girl now is because someone else wants her? I mean - why are you trying to be a hero now? If she gets her heart broken - that's unfortunate, but why do you feel you need to pick up the pieces? It sounds to me like you only want what you can't have.

 

[Knuckles]

Not at all, But I do apreciate your honest opinon. It goes deeper than that. we have known each other for 8 years. I have always been the guy she comes to for advice, to talk to, to flirt with, to talk about hopes and dreams.. and I like her a lot, I have always wanted her, it has just been extremely bad timing,(I have dated at least 6 times before during and after and she has dated 4). She has always wantd me, but I would not give her the time of day, when she stayed interested, I took the time and we hit it off, but one of us was always involved. we know each other for our dedication, if we are dating we are untouchable. the reason why she asked me out is because she knew as well as I did that I would say yes, but I did not because of the circumstances, I figured that If I am going to do this, if I care, I will do it right. So heading off of one situation, she was heading into one, now that she is heading off, I am about to actually make a move, I just want to make sure I dont break this. otherwise this has been a sheer waste of time, a man can dream cant he?

 

[speed dawg]

Whatever you do, DON'T TALK ABOUT THE EX-BOYFRIEND!!!!! No "I told you so", no nothing about him. Just don't do it.

For now, all you can hope to be is a rebound. The only way you'll ever have a serious relationship with her is to wait until this guy's out of her head, and he won't be for awhile, because he sounds like he's doing everything right. You just missed the boat apparently.

But, like I said, she'll want to talk about him alot. You can't do it. Hell, enjoy the rebound sex for about 2 weeks. By then, she'll probably drop you anyway because she's "confused" or "doesn't want to get serious so quick". But really, it's because she's thinking about how she misses the taste of his ****.

You say this chick is so easy, why do you even want a relationship with her? If I were you, she'd always have a stigma in my mind that she's damaged goods.

Use her to hook you up with other girls and for social proof. A real female friend like that is invaluable.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

or you could go with option:

#3) Stop fixating on one solitary woman and spin more plates. You're on the fast track plan to ONEitis.

 

[joekerr31]

this sounds like a total f*cking disaster just waiting to happen.

why would you be friends for 8 yeasr then suddenly decided to be more?!!!

it makes NOOOO sense. if you were attracted to her why wouldn't you have made moves on her 7.9 years ago?

it sounds to me like this chic is hitting the age where shes gone through some men, found them all flawed, and is now playing the 'hmmm, maybe i should hook up with my best guy friend. maybe that would be a relationship that id like and could have the kids and all that with."

this sh*t never ever ever works.

if you guys were meant to be together there is NO way you'd have been able to just be friends for 8 years.

an ya ya ya - bad timing - bullllllll sh*t!

you aren't together because you weren't meant to be together.

 

[Knuckles]

good point if we were both around our current age 8 years ago, can you say 12 and 18? makes no sense does for two very young individuals to even attempt to meet on such a level yes? overall, it would not lead to anything serious. but point well taken, ultimately, its about feelings, attraction can fade but while you have it enjoy the ride, if it actually leads to anything great, but if not it is a learning experience.