"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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HB9 that I like won't be around my city for 3 weeks - contact her in the meantime?

The_Reaper

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I think she's really, really cool. I met her at a night out, and we have great fun, we clicked, and she came back to my place, but no sexing took place. We did sleep side by side though. ;)

We've texted a few times back and forth. Very light, casual, and fun - that's how our interactions have been so far.

She won't be around my city for another few weeks. I would like to play this right and hopefully make a good FB out of her, or even an LTR (*gasp*).

I have her phone number, and I added her to MSN recently. She hasn't accepted the invite yet.. :-/

So, I can't text her for coffee. And I'm not sure what I could say to her.

Any advices?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Gangster Of Love

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Did you kiss her?
Did you let your Sexual Threat be felt?

If you didn't, why is she sleeping in your house, without you escalating?

If you did, then just contact her once or twice in the 3 weeks.
 

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Gangster Of Love said:
Did you kiss her?
Did you let your Sexual Threat be felt?

If you didn't, why is she sleeping in your house, without you escalating?

If you did, then just contact her once or twice in the 3 weeks.
Yeah, we made out. But she wasn't up for sex. I just knew from the beginning it would not happen.

Not so sure what you mean by letting the Sexual Threat be felt.. I think I may have been too light and casual with her.

She's into some martial arts (and so am I), and I was picking her up and throwing her over my back and showing her stuff, and she was loving it.

But I didn't "phase shift", or whatever it's called.

Once or twice seems a bit sparse, no? I don't want her forgetting about me...
 

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Yeah I agree. Contact her a few times while she's gone but don't over do it. Don't be gay and ask how her day was and if she's having fun, just send her some crazy things going on in your world. Make her smile and laugh. Normally I'm not a fan of texting too early but in a situation like this you don't have much choice. After only really being with her one time, there's not enough there to keep her thinking of you for three weeks while she's away.
 

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Ollie said:
Yeah I agree. Contact her a few times while she's gone but don't over do it. Don't be gay and ask how her day was and if she's having fun, just send her some crazy things going on in your world. Make her smile and laugh. Normally I'm not a fan of texting too early but in a situation like this you don't have much choice. After only really being with her one time, there's not enough there to keep her thinking of you for three weeks while she's away.
I think you nailed it there. Thanks man.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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