HB9 Gave up because of my ex

[PoZest]

Girls always think I don't love them enough...
Last two relationships I've had the girls have had a problem with me "not saying I love you enough" and things like that. I know we say that you shouldn't show too much feelings etc. but I don't know whether I'm doing it too extreme or not.
From both relationships I've had the, "you're too good for me" thing, and I don't know how to react to that without being AFC and complimenting them but it sounds like I don't mean it. I wasn't too bothered the first time but this time it has effected me because I didn't want it to end. How do we keep that balance and give them the right amount of attention?

I'm now going through a NC with this hb9 I'd been getting with for a few months because she said she loves me but it would never work because of my ex. Basically my ex (& mother of my child) has threatened her and made it difficult for us and she's just given up on me. I feel I need to forget about her but I always think 'what if I just explain to her it will work', but I don't feel like she's willing to try enough. She can't want it that much if she can just walk away when it gets difficult, right?

 

[goodganji44]

Can't blame your HB9 for not wanting to put up with you and your baby momma's baggage.

First things first, you need to check your baby momma for intervening between your love life. For whatever reason, you two aren't together and who you decide to stick your dck in is none of her concern.

Until then, date some other women and let the chips fall with this HB9 if where they lay. If she comes back, great. If not, you have suitable replacements.

But if you don't resolve this issue with your BM, then ultimately she's going to make your dating life a living hell for all of your future girlfriends.


For those who don't have kids, I strongly advise you to be very careful in deciding what type of women you're putting your seed in. There's nothing worse than the responsibility of having to deal with a low quality woman for the rest of your life.

 

[zinc4]

First off...stop being scared of being AFC...you guys take this stuff way too far sometimes...if you want to tell a girl you love her then by all means do it...just don't get carried away but at the same time don't be afraid to show your emotions and feelings...that is AFC in another sort of way......just be confident and do as you like....you can express yourself freely and often as long as you aren't needy and weak.

 

[gravityeyelids]

PoZest i feel ya. I'm more emotionally detached in my relationships than i should be. She likes (loves?) me more than i like her, but I guess i prefer it that way, because then i have the power. Sometime I do feel like I should be a bit more affectionate. But its hard to know the line. I just dont feel the need to text constantly and be all lovey dovey. It's probably best to just go with your gut (as long as you're not acting blatantly needy and pathetic). I think it's good to be slightly detached and keep her wondering.