"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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HB8 does not like me talking to her HB4 mate.

Deadly_Assassin

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I see HB4 at the flying school but I have never talked to her till I met her in town one night. HB4 is not fat, but is not blessed in the department of looks. I saw her out in town one night. She was sitting by herself in the club. Her friend, the HB8 was busy getting attention from all the guys. I went up to HB4 and started a convo about the flying school. Well, HB8 comes along and says something to HB4. HB4 tries to introduce HB8 to me but HB8 fully ignores me. Me and HB4 just start talking about flying again. We have a chat and then I go along my way.

Last night, I saw HB4 in town again. Again, she was sitting by herself. We talk again and I ask HB4 to put her number in my phone. HB8 fully butts in and tries to stop HB4 from giving her number to me. HB4 still puts her number in my phone. I text HB4 later and she tells me shes on her way home. I ask her when is she flying next. I was drunk when I was texting this. I get a text from HB4 about her next flight. I don't reply. I get another blank message from HB4 and I still don't reply. I don't have any interest in HB4. But I would love to teach HB8 a lesson. any suggestions?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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ARrocket

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You are already teaching HB8 a "lesson" by talking to HB4 instead.

Don't lead HB4 on....that's not cool.
 

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^^^ I agree. She was probably annoyed that you we're ignoring her back. Whether or not the HB8 had any interest in you or not, I know AW's often get annoyed when they are not the center of attention, regardless of their IL in you.

Also agree about the not leading the HB4 on. I don't want to assume anything-maybe you're into the HB4 as a friend-if so, cool. Then you'll probably get another shot to put the HB8 in her place. But don't pretend to have a romantic interest in her if you don't, under any circumstances, really.

Personally, I would just let it go. Some people are just haters.
 
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If you're not interested in HB4 don't lead her on, and if you want to teach HB8 a "lesson", then call her out on her bull****.

If she butts in again say to HB4, "Look! It's your rude friend again, Hi rude friend" and smile. She'll get the idea.
 

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Yea, I am trying not to lead the HB4 on. Thats why I am not texting her. She seems like a nice person. I would prefer that we are just casual friends.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Then make sure you emphasize the friends part in your actions and interactions with her so she gets it.
 
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