HB8.5 came crawling back how did i handle it?

[Infern0]

Got a string of 4 texts today asking why im not talking to her etc etc. Ignored all day until just now. (I ignored 1-2 feeler messages during the week too)

This is the one who was being a ***** on the weekend.

I just replied:

Her: "are u ignoring me blah blah"

Me: nah i just think you had me confused

Her: "confused"?

Me: "yeah confused with someone who puts up with that kind of bull**** "

How did i do? (I made myself laugh at least)

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

"yeah confused with someone who puts up with that kind of bull**** "

Your words contradict the zero fcks attitude that you are trying to portray. You are showing her that you do give a fck, at least a bit, by being sarcastic about it. Too much feels bro.

Nonchalance is best. Next time, tell her to shut up and give the girl a direct order to meet you for your own pleasure.

You can always go for the completely absurd and send something completely unrelated. A meme is good, or birthday cat, a la Heartise: https://heartiste.wordpress.com/2015/05/14/birthday-cat-game/

When you send something idiotic and left field, and she has at least one iota of interest, I can almost guarantee, that they will laugh and probably ask to meet you within five messages.

That being said, I am heartened to see guys here getting girls to back track lately. Radio silence forces their hand every, single, time. I've done it a couple of times myself and the feeling is great. It shows that all this stuff we go through is not in vain. Sooner or later women as a group will start waking up to the way they have been behaving. It's obvious some already are. They will be talking among themselves about these men who stand up to them, and it's confusing the fck out of them.

Long story short, if they act like bratty kids, treat them as such until they start behaving. Feel no emotion, show no emotion. Despite what they like you to think, nine times out of ten, you are the most mature person in the conversation.

 

[Desdinova]

Me: "yeah confused with someone who puts up with that kind of bull**** "

How did i do? (I made myself laugh at least)

The way I always approached dating was to make sure that I was always having fun and not even give a fvck about what the woman was thinking. I'd take her to places I like, be playful with her even if she wasn't in the mood, turn up a good song and sing along if she's giving the silent treatment, etc.

If you can make yourself laugh while interacting with her, then you're doing things right and on your terms. It pisses women off, but it can also make them more attracted to you.

 

[BeTheChange]

You did great imo. The thirsty men here are confused why you didn't spend more mental energy gaming this girl...must be tough for them

Thought the response looked like he was butthurt. If he actually cared would he have even responded?

 

[Infern0]

Thought the response looked like he was butthurt. If he actually cared would he have even responded?

well she's messaging me still asking to talk but im done with her

call it what you will, just aint worth my time son.

 

[Glassguy]

I think you did fine.

If you are really done, block her number, purge her from all social media and move on. Then the temptation is gone for good.

 

[BeTheChange]

Who did it look like that too? The ho? So what?

Missing the point. If I don't give a sh*t about a female I don't even waste the energy required to send a message, let alone make a thread about it. True indifference is notable through inaction.

 

[Infern0]

Missing the point. If I don't give a sh*t about a female I don't even waste the energy required to send a message, let alone make a thread about it. True indifference is notable through inaction.

Yeah but sometimes its more fun to reck some sloot and laugh at imagining her reaction when she gets served for the first time in her life.

so there's always that.

 

[zekko]

Missing the point. If I don't give a sh*t about a female I don't even waste the energy required to send a message, let alone make a thread about it.

I don't know what the girl did, so I could be wrong here. But:

If you don't give a sh!t about the female, then there's no point in ever seeing her again. If, on the other hand, you are trying to punish her for bad behavior, I see nothing wrong with letting her know what she did wrong.

If what she did was so bad that he never wants to see her again, I still don't have a problem with letting her know what she did wrong. Gives her the opportunity to reflect and change her behavior for the next guy. If I'm never going to see her again, why should I care if it puts some imaginary chink in my IDGAF armor?

See, I don't care enough to care if it looks like I don't care or not

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Long story short, girls don't usually act out for guys they're not in to. Guys that women are not in to get ignored, flaked on, sh!t don't even appear on the radar.

Reacting to emotion in others without emotion oneself is next level game and sure takes some years of practice. Nexting for the sake of one indiscretion (depending on severity) is still an emotional reaction, and potentially a mistake in my book. 'Getting even' is still an emotional reaction. Maybe she's just on the blob.

It's a man's job to be rational. And women will sporadically get emotional when confronted with a strong, rational man.

A three strike rule is good for most things:
1) Ask her what wrong (what's really wrong) to make her act out. Usually it's nothing to do with you. Being emotionless and being cold are two very different things.
2) It happens again. You explain that you don't appreciate her behaving the way she does. Disappear for a few days. When she reaches back out (which she did) reiterate your displeasure and explain that if it happens again, you're done.
3) You're done.

That's the calm, rational way. And you can't blame people for not learning if you're not willing to teach.

That being said, I don't know the back story so can't really comment. I can appreciate how fcking tiring it is when it happens time over. It's fcking embarrassing more than anything. Some people really just aren't worth the time of day.

 

[BeTheChange]

But so what? A key understanding, it's all house money.

Still expending energy and attention that could be used elsewhere. Dont you value your time?

Like TMK said, girls that don't give a fvck literally just ignore guys. They don't get "even". Most people are the same.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

True indifference is notable through inaction.

It might also be said that faux indifference is notable through purposeful inaction.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

Thought the response looked like he was butthurt. If he actually cared would he have even responded?

Which brings us to the paradox that can never be solved...

In order to attract women, completely ignore them like they mean nothing to you. And your reward will be....

Nothing.

So then you must say SOMETHING. Which will drive them away because now they think you care what they think.

 

[Infern0]

Well it "payed off"

She's coming over for netflix and chill tonight.

Downgraded to "plate at the most" status though and on high alert to eradicate any feelings.

Good result