"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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HB: "You're a good looking guy"

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Hey I often get girls who say to me stuff like "You're such a handsome guy" "good looking" or "You're very attractive". I guess I'm pretty good looking :cool: But this sort of thing makes me kind of freeze on a response...

I mean I am trying to do the ****y funny thing, but i don't want to be TOO ****y. How would you respond to a girl who said this.

I'm sort of an indirect type guy, I build attraction, value before really going into comfort etc etc. Kind of like MM. But when a girl immediately starts saying I'm cute or something how should i respond??? :confused:

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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Originally posted by Riddler
I mean I am trying to do the ****y funny thing, but i don't want to be TOO ****y. How would you respond to a girl who said this.
"Thanks" will do you just fine. You don't have to be ****y every sentence you say!

In fact, jokingly modest is even better. If you're really good looking, and you know it, and she knows it, and, in fact, everybody in the room knows it, you can jokingly say "Me? No I crack mirrors!" and everybody will say "Wow, he's modest too!" Just don't act like you really think you are ugly.

This applies to any valuable aspect of yourself. If you are in very good shape, joke that you need to lose a few pounds (JOKE about it, don't be serious!) or if you're an excellent guitar player, even after playing an awesome set say that there's still so much you need to learn. If your car is worth $150k, joke about how embarrassed you are to be seen in your rustbucket - then when they find out the truth they'll think "Wow, he has so much to brag about - but he never brags"


BrotherAP :D

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Re: Laugh at them....

Originally posted by Jcrew
If a girl tells me im goodlooking...i usually respond with "I know."

Then I excuse myself.


jcrew
nevermind

BrotherAP :D
 

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A simple "thanks" will do fine, but it's kinda boring.

I've tried different things. Saying "I know" is a good answer but never did me any favors or got me anywhere.

Now whenever I'm complimented for whatever reason by a girl, I tell her that she has to come up with something more original. "I'm not falling for that" "Try again" etc. It's what's been getting me the best responses =)
 

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I think I'll try some of the modesty thing. "no, i crack mirrors" then some of the playful "hey you're trying to pick me up" stuff.

That seems more my style. I have tried in the past just saying "Thanks". But I don't think that works quite as well.


So what do you guys consider this as an IOI even if the girl says it within minutes of you meeting them? Should I go in for comfort or should i stay laid back ****y and funny for a while before going into it.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Thanks, your so sweet.. (your chance to make a move)

I think the only time i got the handsome word was from a panhandler in the train... :crackup:
 

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As everyone else has said just say thanks, If you try and use a C & F line after she has said that you might come off to arrogant.
Good luck
 

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Ive been called hot twice and both times ive just gave an appreciating smirk back.
 

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riddles,

respond with "great, can i f*ck your mother in the *ss"

trust me, it works

:crackup:
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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"You strike me as someone with very good taste" (and I mean that figuratively).
 

Maverick001

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Dude,

Any girl that says that to you is interested, so run with it.


For example,

HB: "You`re good looking."

You: "You`re right. I think I`m good looking too."


HB: "You`re good looking."

You: "Yup, and if I was a girl I`d say I was good looking too."


HB: "You`re good looking."

You: "What is it with women these days? A guy can`t even walk the street without being treated like a sex object. We have feelings too you know. Sometimes we just want to be held!"


HB: "You`re good looking."

You: "Yeah, all my girlfriends say the same thing."


HB: "You`re good looking."

You: "That`s a coincidence, Moneypenny says the same thing to me every morning."


HB: "You`re good looking."

You: "What is it with women these days? A guy can`t even walk the street without being hit on. You're gonna have to buy me a coffee and talk about this and it has to be at a real cafe because I'm not easy or cheap and I'm picky."

Get it?

Now mind you it helps if you have a ****y grin on when saying stuff like this and it does work.

Cheers,
Mav
 

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"Your good looking"

*weird look*

HEY!!!!

just because your all nice and sweet doesn't mean im going to sleep with you...
HA you thought i was that easy..

*roll eyes*

apply push pull
apply kino
apply mavec
apply gunwitch
apply tyler's closed eyes kiss suprise

give us some field reports.. SON
 

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i usually aim to do at least 3 completely random and spontaneous things on a date. it used to be so girls would know im not boring but now it's sort of become a bit of personal game i do for fun too lol.

last time someone complimented on my smile towards the end of the date we were walking and in mid-conversation i just screamed really loud and continued on the convo....

she said "haha omg what happened"

i said "what nothing" and continued talking like nothing happened

she laughed

im guessing that one came from the drinks we had but you get what im saying

i dont usually like giving witty responses to compliments, i save my wit for other times when there's no way they couldve seen it coming

I'm not saying that the Soprano Scream Technique is the best way to go but if you're a very UN-serious person like myself u might wanna give the random act in response to compliment thing a try... but if you act all square and serious throughout the date then it may not work in it's full effect lol

at the same time it could show that u don't know how to take compliments... but it is really fun
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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I don't get the compliment

I just get girls approaching me or grabbing my @$$. I usually look suprised at them and say "Don't need my coffee anymore ;) " or something like that.

comic_relief
 

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i would consider myself avarage looking but girls tell me i'm cute. or hot every once in a while.

i take it with stride and just say thanks. but not a shy thanks.
 

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"wait till you see my c0ck"
 

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It could be support for a let down

As long as she isn't doing it as anice compliment to preface a big DUMPaROMA sandwhich, I'd say the standard responses are pretty good. If that's the case, then you have to cut her off before she has a chance to do anything else. You have to do something really spectacular.
 

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OMG... don't listen to some of the above and go out on some big ****y level... smirk or not its arrogant, and reeks of trying too hard to play the realms of C&F...

The fundamentals of such a statement are that the girl is communicating an IL to you... furthermore she's opened a convo with you...

What you want to do is acknowledge her compliment... do say 'Thanks', then open the conversation which will give you a lot more subtle opportunities to demonstrate that you can be C&F at the most suitable times...
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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