HB talks about her bf, and then...

[The LadyKiller]

Before I go into detail, please know this post isn't about what I should do, but about what HB is doing. This involves the age-old question of if men and women can be friends. I don't know the answer.

Now to the post: I met a HB through my work. We get along very well, but I'm not trying to game her. She is in a serious relationship and I'm a little cautious about trying to date coworkers anyway. Earlier this week, she brought up wanting to try a restaurant for lunch before her work shift. A few other coworkers were invited and our small group had a good time. As we left, HB and I were walking to our cars down the street. In succession, she says:
- Her bf just got a new job, so they are moving a couple of towns over to accommodate them both.
- She says she and I should get drinks sometime after work when our days line up (we work different days and hours).

I have no problem taking her up on her offer because I am new to the area and would like to make some friends when I'm not working 60-plus hours a week. But, would you say this is a common ask for a HB in a relationship? I don't know the answer, which is why I am posting.

My focus these days is simply meeting people and trying to develop friendships in my new neighborhood. This would allow me to create a social circle and meet more HBs - ones that are single. No triangles for me.

 

[RedScorpion]

I'd say it's uncommon. Especially if it's just you and her. The ones where I've seen this happen - it was pretty much a surefire lead into the girl cheating on their bf (or vice versa). One girl I can think of was pretty much doing it for the attention - going from guy to guy, flirting. Basically attention whoring... but who knows.

That doesn't mean it's for sure the case, and I would go in expecting nothing more if you do go... but it's definitely a red flag in my opinion, at least towards her commitment with the bf. In ordinary situations, it's not proper for a girl (with a bf) to be getting drinks with a guy after work - just the two of them.

Elsewise... could be just an idle offer to hang out, with no serious backing behind it.

 

[RangerMIke]

Chicks don't seek out male friends, unless they want something. Chicks make terrible real friends.

 

[The LadyKiller]

There's something missing in her current relationship that gives ample room for you in her life.

This is part of the answer, as I found out today. In near succession, the following two things came out:
- She is traveling to see family in a few weeks. BF is going because his brother is graduating from college in the area.
- BF is training in the medical field and she will barely see him except when she gets home at night.

The bf simply won't be around as often due to the complexities of his new job. That allows for the opening. It makes some more sense now.

 

[Glassguy]

Her: We should get drinks after work sometimes
Me: Yeah sure. I will check my schedule and get back to you. Let me know later on when you are free.

Leave it at that. See if she reaches out and in what manner she does so.

 

[sazc]

I agree, let her reach out to arrange the meet. Approach the date as if it were a business networking event. That will put your mind in the right frame to see where she is at.

 

[The Duke]

Another example of a woman looking to get her needs met somewhere else. This stuff happens so often these days. Its why you shouldn't take women seriously. They all use multiple men to take meet all their needs and its becoming more acceptable.

 

[Spidah]

Bitches will take any attention they can get.

Women don't respect their straight male friends. They know what guys really want, so if you have time to be their friend it means your sexual options and male friend options are shyt.

You think these bitches don't recognize?