HB purgatory

[backbreaker]

you have to start thinking of yourself as a guy who dates bad ass women.

the biggest block you have against you dating smoking hot women, is your mental limitations that you have placed on yourself

I remember when i first started my web development company, for a good while we took anything we can get because we had no portfolio. but there was about a 6 month window when, we had a portfolio that could compete for and get the jobs i really wanted us to have, but i had not yet made that mental jump from guy who took anything he can get to guy who cherry picks great projects beucase he can. I actually ended up worse off; clients who i were trying to get, were scared off by the work we had done; it was too good for the type of work they wanted done and assumed we were going to charge them astronomical rates. And I couldn't get the great projects because i wouldn't look at them.

literally, the only thing that changed one day was me saying you know what.. **** this. we do ****ing great work and we deserve to get great projects. so I just flipped the switch and took off the chains and started presenting myself and my company as someone who took and handled these types of jobs. and lo and behold, they believed me lol.

Now, i'm not saying ti was all peaches and cream. I ****ed some **** up here and there. But because I was focusing on the type of clients i wanted, the errors showed me the exact things we needed to work on to shore up those issues.

my entire point sorry for blabbing, is you aren't going to get a harem of 8.5's and 9's by talking to and dating 6's and 7's.

if you want to be a guy who dates hot women, you need to carry yourself like a guy who dates hot women. stop paying the ****ty avg women the time of day. start talking to hot women like you expect them to approve of you and not like you are hoping they approve of you, beucase she is the type of girl you date.

the post assumes that you are well groomed, have a since of style to yourself and have at the very least, some game. if you are x on any of those, they obviously need to be addressed first. This post is for the guys stuck in HB purgatory.. too good for the 6's and 6.5's but you can't date the 8.5's and 9's.

 

[muscleman]

I agree with what you're saying in theory, but in practice it's different. You're comparing work to dating a certain caliber (hotness) of women - which is apples and oranges.

Game + a few nice outfits will only take you so far, no matter how highly you think of yourself. Of course being overly confident won't HURT, but past a certain point it won't HELP you any either; there's only so far that having the proper attitude will take you.

These 8.5s and 9s who are capable of extracting resources of high value men won't give you the time of day no matter how much game you spit.

That's one of the fallacies of game - that it will make all your dreams come true. Some sure, but not all.

And you might be able to 'trick' a couple hotties here and there to give it up, maybe even snag an 8.5 as a right place - right guy - right time scenario, but these are exceptions and until you get on her level you won't be doing it with any regularity.

If the sum of your valuable traits (wealth, status, fame, looks, game) puts you at a 7, you're just not going to be dating 9s no matter how 'well groomed' you are.

To get out of 'HB purgatory' you have to bump yourself up to the next league, i.e. become higher value yourself.